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KiwiGirl
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Reged: 06/09/05
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Loc: Plains State

Disengagement

06/29/05 06:10 PM

I know it is hard but you cannot tell the BM that her daughter has been grounded from the IM service and expect her to just agree with you. Some parents will just not do that. They wonder why YOU know best and THEY don't. Then you are stepping into dangerous territory.

Around here you get grounded for whatever reason. The BM is told what and why this punsihment is imposed. Then while the child is here the punsihment applies. Once they return to their BM we can only hope she abides by the decision.

Now if my 13 yr old was online chatting to older men I would take her for a little drive to the local police station. Make prior arrangements thru the right department and let her see what happens to young girls and how easily it is to track them down. She feels she is like teflon and all trouble will just slide on off her.

Grounding works. But I find it better to work their butts off. No computer time but lots of cleaning time. No access to the computer because she cannot be trusted in your home.

I do think it is a little tough to insist a certain form of punishment follows her back to her mother's place when her mother doesn't feel it is appropriate. This is her mother and you are just a step parent. That is what it comes down to.

If I were you I would have ignored it until she turned up for her next visitation. Mention you saw her online and she probably thinks she is clever in trying to decieve her father and you. And then offer to take her for icecream and call by the police station. Kids will not listen to adults who get emotionally involved. But they would listen to a cop in uniform showing her how easily he can tyrack down her address and her personal details. THAT will shock the life out of her.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
I think I blew my chance with my step daughter	butterscotch	06/29/05 12:03 AM
Disengagement	KiwiGirl	06/29/05 06:10 PM
Re: Disengagement	butterscotch	06/29/05 09:16 PM
Disengagement	KiwiGirl	06/29/05 09:57 PM
Re: Disengagement	butterscotch	06/30/05 10:07 PM
Re: I think I blew my chance with my step daughter	Debi	06/29/05 08:27 AM
Re: I think I blew my chance with my step daughter	butterscotch	06/29/05 10:04 AM
Re: I think I blew my chance with my step daughter	TGSM	06/29/05 10:58 AM
Re: I think I blew my chance with my step daughter	Debi	06/29/05 10:44 AM
Re: I think I blew my chance with my step daughter	Cinders	06/29/05 07:57 AM

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