Divorce Source: Just getting started and overwhelmed

Encyclopedia

Checklists

Tools

Downloads

Bookstore

Start Your Divorce Today - Premium Divorce Online

You are not logged in. [Login]
NEW USER Registration

DS Home · Community Forums · All Forums/Msg. Centers
NEW USER Registration · Search Community Forums · Help

Divorce Source Community Forums >> Spousal Support/Alimony

Susanf31
Carpal \'Tunnel

Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 10630

Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed

02/06/07 08:06 PM

Is your income consistently over $100k?

So you are saying she could reenter the workforce tomorrow and instantly make $45 to $50k?

What kind custody do you want? 50/50. Or will she be primary parent?

Due to the fact that your marriage is under 10 yrs and she hasn't suffered much of a career interruption, I'm guessing alimony will be minimal.

You have to ask yourself if this is what you want for your kids. If she's willing to continue staying at home until the youngest reaches school age and you can afford it, that might be something you want to consider. Afterall, it's very hard to work full-time and be primary parent to 2 toddlers. That could drive even the most normal person insane. Is that the kind of life you want for your kids? Are you willing to take 50/50 custody and share that "pain" or are you expecting her to do most of it?

If I were a man in your position, I'd be willing to pay alimony for 2 more years to keep my wife at home taking care of the kids. Then, once the kids entered k-garten, I'd expect her to return to the workforce to her best capacity.

Lastly, you would QDRO your 401k. That will allow her to roll over her portion of your 401k into a qualified IRA/401k with no penalities to anyone. It will also allow her to withdraw the $$$ and only have to pay income tax on it, but no penalities.

Post Extras

Entire topic
Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Just getting started and overwhelmed	wheretostart	02/06/07 03:34 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	Susanf31	02/07/07 08:35 AM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	wheretostart	02/07/07 11:55 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	Maury	02/08/07 12:33 AM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	TGSM	02/06/07 10:32 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	DevotedMom	02/06/07 09:20 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	DevotedMom	02/06/07 08:08 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	wheretostart	02/06/07 08:59 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	DevotedMom	02/06/07 09:11 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	Susanf31	02/06/07 04:25 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	wheretostart	02/06/07 07:09 PM
Fairness	HO2	02/08/07 06:35 AM
Re: Fairness	wheretostart	02/09/07 06:48 AM
Re: Fairness	madalex	02/09/07 08:50 AM
Re: Fairness	myangels	02/09/07 09:31 AM
Re: Fairness	Susanf31	02/09/07 09:57 AM
Re: Fairness	spinnerdegrassi	02/09/07 10:22 AM
Re: Fairness	myangels	02/09/07 10:55 AM
Re: Fairness	Susanf31	02/09/07 11:47 AM
Re: Fairness	Lucy44	02/09/07 03:10 PM
Re: Fairness	myangels	02/09/07 03:40 PM
Re: Fairness	wheretostart	02/09/07 04:08 PM
Re: Fairness	Susanf31	02/09/07 04:10 PM
Re: Fairness	wheretostart	02/09/07 04:14 PM
Re: Fairness	Susanf31	02/09/07 04:21 PM
Re: Fairness	wheretostart	02/09/07 05:20 PM
Re: Fairness	wheretostart	02/09/07 03:08 PM
Re: Fairness	Redlegg	02/09/07 07:23 AM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	Gecko	02/06/07 07:42 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	Susanf31	02/06/07 08:06 PM
Re: Just getting started and overwhelmed	wheretostart	02/06/07 08:57 PM

Extra information

0 registered and 2 anonymous users are browsing this forum.

Moderator: dsAdmin

Forum Permissions
      You cannot start new topics
      You cannot reply to topics
      HTML is disabled
      UBBCode is disabled

Rating:
Thread views: 5779

Jump to

Divorce Source Home

UBB.threads™ 6.5.1.1

Resources & Tools

	Start Your Divorce Several Options to Get Started Today.		Online Divorce Tools Keeping it Simple to Get the Job Done.
	Download Center Instantly Download Books, Guides & Forms.		Discount Books Over 100 of the Best Divorce & Custody Books.
	Negotiate Online Settle your Divorce and Save.		Custody Scheduling Make Sure You Document Everything.

Easily Connect With a Lawyer or Mediator

Have Divorce Professionals from Your Area Contact You!