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kemahapalew
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Reged: 02/03/07
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Re: Whoa!

02/12/07 04:20 PM

"point? If you don't WANT more children, you do what you have to in order to not HAVE more children. The way I see it.. subconsciously, you like this. You like the drama, you like adding more kids in the picture.. it's what you want. You want the attention. Why else would you go on a national television show to air your problems? You live that life and you make those decisions because it's what you want.

No one here can truly help YOU until you help yourself. Until you recognize who HE is, who YOU are and how you all got yourselves into this mess to begin with. At a minimum? You're a co-dependent and you enable his behavior. Did they tell you that on Dr. Phil? Get thee to a REAL therapist if you really want help with your and your husband's issues... or with just getting your own life together on your own... "

NO...I don't want drama and I didn't go on Dr. Phil because I was having children with this man..would you like to know how I even got on the show????? Here let me tell you.
I was on line, mind you 3 1/2 years ago and saw an advertisement for Dr. Phil. I rarely watched tv and had only seen his show twice. Well I saw one of the shows themes as being about people who find fault in everyone and everything...and i wrote to them not really believing anything would come of it. I didn't give a crap one way or the other...in fact my friend and I had a laugh over it and she called me a goof. She knew I wasn't serious about it..she just knew i was deperate to save my marriage because: here's a big one for all of you "I LOVED MY HUSBAND" They called me that day and the producer promised counceling for us. Bottom line. Again, I will not feel guilty or less then a person becuase of going on the show.
At this point we had been married three years with a two year old and one year old. Everything that happened throughout the years has been like a roller coaster ride. But guess what...there were the good moments as well! WE've only come to this point again since he had to leave again to go to Texas. He wanted this marriage to work as much as I did..but he had to be stationed somewhere else again. He wanted to change..he wanted to be a better person..you could see him trying. I loved him for that..but I guess you get to a point when enough is enough. When my ex-husband and I divorced I was a single mom for 6 1/2 years before meeting my husband now..I promised myself that I would never get another divorce again if I ever even allowed myself to marry , becasue I felt guilty for giving that marriage up without really trying. I was young and I was stupid and so was he. But our marriage was decent and his family was awesome. That is still a a part of me...not ever wanting to give up. And by the way...no...Dr. Phil did not tell me I was co-dependent. He told my husband that he could change and he saw that my husband wanted to change and he got us counceling which was helping tremendously..until he got back into the reserves and went into this unit called the SARG unit where he had to travel consistantly...you can't work on a marriage when one is gone all the time. The beginning of the end. When he got stationed here in Indiana, we finally saw a way to work out our marriage. Then of course that ended as well. There's so much more to it then that but let me tell you something..if I were a person who was all about playing victim and being co-dependent I would not have tried as hard as I have on this marriage and gone through being alone yet married for the last 3 years. I've been everything to these kids...everything ..and guess what..They're beautiful awesome kids. So conintue to judge me ...that's fine. Just writing this makes me realize that I have done the best I can and I have been a good mom like so many of my friends and family have told me. I have a letter that my daughter wrote me when she was a senior in H.S. telling me that she respected and looked up to me as being one of the strongest people she's ever known. That she had the happiest childhood and wouldn't trade anything. I guess I did right somehow.

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Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/03/07 08:20 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Rebecca5	02/04/07 08:36 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 08:43 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Rebecca5	02/04/07 09:53 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 10:29 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Miranda	02/05/07 01:51 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Rebecca5	02/04/07 10:51 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/05/07 07:42 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 08:48 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/03/07 02:00 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 10:19 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Gecko	02/04/07 11:32 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 12:30 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 01:45 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	overcoming_evil	02/11/07 01:13 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Gecko	02/13/07 10:25 PM
But but but...	almostheaven	02/14/07 08:44 AM
Re: But but but...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:32 AM
Re: But but but...	Olivia000102	02/14/07 01:42 PM
Olivia...	almostheaven	02/14/07 09:39 PM
Re: Olivia...	preemiemom	02/14/07 09:46 PM
Re: Olivia...	almostheaven	02/14/07 09:51 PM
Re: Olivia...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 06:52 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 08:34 AM
Whoa!	almostheaven	02/11/07 07:02 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 08:27 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 08:51 AM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:18 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:04 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:11 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:16 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:41 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:45 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:55 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:59 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:04 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 09:15 AM
Re: Whoa!	Loretta	02/15/07 08:40 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:27 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:20 AM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:25 AM
Re: Whoa!	preemiemom	02/12/07 10:39 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:09 PM
AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/12/07 07:41 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/12/07 10:10 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/13/07 08:51 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 09:01 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/13/07 09:59 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 04:36 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	zepdiva	02/13/07 06:30 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 06:37 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/13/07 07:12 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 07:16 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	zepdiva	02/14/07 11:50 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	Olivia000102	02/14/07 01:34 PM
Shooooooooooo	preemiemom	02/14/07 11:56 AM
LOL	almostheaven	02/14/07 09:38 PM
Re: LOL	Miranda	02/15/07 07:39 AM
Re: LOL	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:52 AM
Re: LOL	Miranda	02/15/07 08:12 AM
You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:29 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 09:15 AM
"defending myself"...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:20 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Spring	02/15/07 09:38 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:21 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Spring	02/15/07 08:39 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Runswithscissors	02/15/07 10:09 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Spring	02/16/07 12:03 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Redlegg	02/16/07 02:36 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:41 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 09:06 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:14 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Miranda	02/15/07 09:10 AM
ROFLMFAO!...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:15 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 09:16 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 05:12 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 06:01 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 07:01 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:10 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 07:25 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:48 PM
Troll	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:15 PM
Re: Troll	kemahapalew	02/15/07 08:26 PM
Re: Troll	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:36 PM
Re: Troll	preemiemom	02/15/07 09:16 PM
Thanks...	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:40 PM
Re: Troll	kemahapalew	02/15/07 08:32 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 08:12 PM
No way Jose...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:16 PM
"They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:26 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	Karen1	02/15/07 07:33 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:48 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	Karen1	02/15/07 08:20 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:52 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	zepdiva	02/16/07 04:07 PM
Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/16/07 04:28 PM
Re: Hey troll...	zepdiva	02/16/07 04:39 PM
Re: Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/16/07 05:07 PM
Re: Hey troll...	Karen1	02/16/07 05:39 PM
Re: Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/17/07 02:31 PM
Re: Hey troll...	Karen1	02/17/07 03:21 PM
Re: Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/17/07 05:54 PM
Re: Hey troll...	zepdiva	02/16/07 05:38 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:53 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:05 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:16 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:36 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:04 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 08:18 PM
Man!	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:25 PM
OK...	preemiemom	02/15/07 09:46 AM
Re: OK...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 10:23 AM
Re: OK...	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:46 PM
Hooray!...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:18 AM
Re: Hooray!...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 10:28 AM
Wow!	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:49 PM
Re: Hooray!...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 10:26 AM
Re: Hooray!...	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:50 PM
Watch it Spring...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:41 AM
Re: Watch it Spring...	Spring	02/15/07 08:43 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	preemiemom	02/15/07 08:37 AM
Oh I dunno...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:42 AM
I'm LMAO!	zepdiva	02/15/07 05:53 PM
Re: I'm LMAO!	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:02 PM
Re: I'm LMAO!	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:54 PM
Re: I'm LMAO!	kemahapalew	02/15/07 06:03 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	kemahapalew	02/13/07 10:02 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/14/07 08:41 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	Gecko	02/13/07 10:28 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	kemahapalew	02/14/07 04:51 AM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:37 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:54 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 06:06 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 06:11 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 09:55 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 12:55 PM
Re: Whoa!	matart1	02/12/07 02:02 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 03:49 PM
Re: Whoa!	preemiemom	02/12/07 01:38 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 04:20 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 03:40 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:29 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/04/07 05:29 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 09:11 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/05/07 07:38 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 08:32 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/05/07 07:32 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Gecko	02/04/07 01:59 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 02:41 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 03:48 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 03:58 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 04:01 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 04:12 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 04:49 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 04:53 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	TGSM	02/04/07 08:43 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/03/07 08:11 PM

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