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almostheaven
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Re: Whoa!

02/12/07 09:55 PM

Well as long as you hit reply on the post your responding to...

I read in threaded mode, so I see your reply under the last post you clicked on. So far the posts have been easy to figure out which one they're in response to. As for the previous response to my post...

You don't need to defend your kids first off. Your kids have done NOTHING. And you don't really need to defend what you did in the past. It was done, it was recognized, you were told it wasn't the best decision, and you move on from there and work with the advice you got and ask for more tailored to the specific area you're seeking it for.

I can even understand a difficult time with pregnancy. While my marriage is great (this time around, cause I've had two that didn't work and there's something I've been judged on in the past and so what), the MOMENT wasn't the greatest. We'd BOTH just quit our jobs (AND my health insurance) to move over 700 miles to take care of my husband's ailing parents once he received a letter from their family doctor that they both suffered from differing forms of dementia and couldn't care for themselves. We were 24/7 on call taking his kidney infected, bed ridden mother to the bathroom, most of our belongings in storage and no income coming in, while trying to keep his dad from burning the house down around us all. As against abortion as I am, we even fleetingly considered it. Hubby is just as against it, but would have said nothing if that had been my choice. But it just wasn't something I could "seriously" consider. We basically had one conversation with the doctor about it, case dropped. And we made the best of it. State put his parents in a home and sold theirs and we got on with our lives and just recently bought a house.

Just as you'll get on with your life. The point of the discussion on your continuing having kids was two-fold (from my standpoint), one in that if anyone else in an abusive relationship reads here, perhaps they'll think twice before allowing that to happen to them...bringing more kids into that type of situation. If it stops just one more from doing it, it's at least one more child that won't have to grow up in that type of family, or in a divided family when it all fails. And the other was to point out that because of that choice to have more, it's going to be triply (is that a word) bad on you AND your kids. You won't have you or you and one to feed, but you and three (not including the two from the prior relationship). It's going to be rough, very rough, if your marriage fails. And frankly, with the behavior you've described, I don't see how it could, or should, survive.

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Char Fox

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Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/03/07 08:20 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Rebecca5	02/04/07 08:36 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 08:43 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Rebecca5	02/04/07 09:53 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 10:29 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Miranda	02/05/07 01:51 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Rebecca5	02/04/07 10:51 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/05/07 07:42 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 08:48 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/03/07 02:00 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 10:19 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Gecko	02/04/07 11:32 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 12:30 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 01:45 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	overcoming_evil	02/11/07 01:13 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Gecko	02/13/07 10:25 PM
But but but...	almostheaven	02/14/07 08:44 AM
Re: But but but...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:32 AM
Re: But but but...	Olivia000102	02/14/07 01:42 PM
Olivia...	almostheaven	02/14/07 09:39 PM
Re: Olivia...	preemiemom	02/14/07 09:46 PM
Re: Olivia...	almostheaven	02/14/07 09:51 PM
Re: Olivia...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 06:52 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 08:34 AM
Whoa!	almostheaven	02/11/07 07:02 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 08:27 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 08:51 AM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:18 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:04 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:11 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:16 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:41 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:45 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:55 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:59 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:04 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 09:15 AM
Re: Whoa!	Loretta	02/15/07 08:40 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:27 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:20 AM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:25 AM
Re: Whoa!	preemiemom	02/12/07 10:39 AM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:09 PM
AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/12/07 07:41 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/12/07 10:10 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/13/07 08:51 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 09:01 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/13/07 09:59 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 04:36 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	zepdiva	02/13/07 06:30 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 06:37 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	preemiemom	02/13/07 07:12 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/13/07 07:16 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	zepdiva	02/14/07 11:50 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	Olivia000102	02/14/07 01:34 PM
Shooooooooooo	preemiemom	02/14/07 11:56 AM
LOL	almostheaven	02/14/07 09:38 PM
Re: LOL	Miranda	02/15/07 07:39 AM
Re: LOL	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:52 AM
Re: LOL	Miranda	02/15/07 08:12 AM
You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:29 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 09:15 AM
"defending myself"...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:20 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Spring	02/15/07 09:38 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:21 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Spring	02/15/07 08:39 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Runswithscissors	02/15/07 10:09 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Spring	02/16/07 12:03 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Redlegg	02/16/07 02:36 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:41 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 09:06 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:14 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Miranda	02/15/07 09:10 AM
ROFLMFAO!...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:15 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 09:16 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 05:12 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 06:01 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 07:01 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:10 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 07:25 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:48 PM
Troll	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:15 PM
Re: Troll	kemahapalew	02/15/07 08:26 PM
Re: Troll	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:36 PM
Re: Troll	preemiemom	02/15/07 09:16 PM
Thanks...	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:40 PM
Re: Troll	kemahapalew	02/15/07 08:32 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	Karen1	02/15/07 08:12 PM
No way Jose...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:16 PM
"They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:26 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	Karen1	02/15/07 07:33 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:48 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	Karen1	02/15/07 08:20 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:52 PM
Re: "They might be suffering from cabin fever"...	zepdiva	02/16/07 04:07 PM
Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/16/07 04:28 PM
Re: Hey troll...	zepdiva	02/16/07 04:39 PM
Re: Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/16/07 05:07 PM
Re: Hey troll...	Karen1	02/16/07 05:39 PM
Re: Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/17/07 02:31 PM
Re: Hey troll...	Karen1	02/17/07 03:21 PM
Re: Hey troll...	almostheaven	02/17/07 05:54 PM
Re: Hey troll...	zepdiva	02/16/07 05:38 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:53 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:05 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:16 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 07:36 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:04 PM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 08:18 PM
Man!	almostheaven	02/16/07 02:25 PM
OK...	preemiemom	02/15/07 09:46 AM
Re: OK...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 10:23 AM
Re: OK...	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:46 PM
Hooray!...	almostheaven	02/15/07 10:18 AM
Re: Hooray!...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 10:28 AM
Wow!	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:49 PM
Re: Hooray!...	kemahapalew	02/15/07 10:26 AM
Re: Hooray!...	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:50 PM
Watch it Spring...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:41 AM
Re: Watch it Spring...	Spring	02/15/07 08:43 AM
Re: You shoulda seen it coming Miranda...	preemiemom	02/15/07 08:37 AM
Oh I dunno...	almostheaven	02/15/07 08:42 AM
I'm LMAO!	zepdiva	02/15/07 05:53 PM
Re: I'm LMAO!	almostheaven	02/15/07 07:02 PM
Re: I'm LMAO!	almostheaven	02/15/07 06:54 PM
Re: I'm LMAO!	kemahapalew	02/15/07 06:03 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	kemahapalew	02/13/07 10:02 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	almostheaven	02/14/07 08:41 AM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	Gecko	02/13/07 10:28 PM
Re: AlmostHeaven.. Clarification	kemahapalew	02/14/07 04:51 AM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 05:37 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 05:54 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 06:06 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 06:11 PM
Re: Whoa!	almostheaven	02/12/07 09:55 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 12:55 PM
Re: Whoa!	matart1	02/12/07 02:02 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 03:49 PM
Re: Whoa!	preemiemom	02/12/07 01:38 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 04:20 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 03:40 PM
Re: Whoa!	kemahapalew	02/12/07 09:29 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/04/07 05:29 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 09:11 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/05/07 07:38 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 08:32 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/05/07 07:32 AM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Gecko	02/04/07 01:59 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 02:41 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 03:48 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 03:58 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 04:01 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 04:12 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	kemahapalew	02/04/07 04:49 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	Maury	02/04/07 04:53 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	TGSM	02/04/07 08:43 PM
Re: Im in Indiana as well, completely overwhelmed!	almostheaven	02/03/07 08:11 PM

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