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PhoenixRising
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Reged: 01/05/07
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Re: continuing spousal support

02/22/07 11:43 AM

Bad news, spousal support is going to end. If he isn’t paying for the things that he is supposed to be paying for now, there is little chance he is going to voluntarily continue your alimony. He has "started his life over", I’m pretty sure that is not going to include continuing to support you.

If he owes you money then your county support bureau might be able to collect for you. In some states, they will increase his garnishment for his portion of the extra-curricular expenses and/or go to court and collect for you; all at no cost to you.

I can relate to your fear. My spousal support hasn’t even been awarded yet but I know it won’t be lifetime and I am already worrying about how I will make ends meet. The support will mainly go to paying off my legal fees.

It won’t help for you to hear that you knew this day was coming and should have planned for it. What you need to do now is educate yourself. Money management is not rocket science. You have income, you have expenses. You need to either increase your income to meet your expenses or reduce your expenses.

Have you considered additional education? Perhaps your employer will pay for courses to help increase your pay scale.

My children and I have decided to live without much now while I go to school so hopefully we will be able to afford a slightly better lifestyle later. We live on my student loans, which works out to about $1000/month. We get by most months, church and neighbors have been generous during the rare emergency. It has been hard, but worth it. I hope to graduate this year.

You didn’t sign on for this. This isn’t the way you pictured how your life was going to be and it probably feels unfair. Most of us here did not plan on being single parents and being alone so there are a lot of people here that can relate and feel for you.

You have a chance to redefine your life and chart a new course. I am 50 yrs old and it is the first time in my life that I get to be the one to make the decisions. It was scary and overwhelming at first but I wouldn’t go back. I would rather be poor and independent than be taken care of but have no say in my life. BTDT.

Financial worries are scary and real but you must face them head on. You wasted those years that you had alimony not planning for this day. You must sit down and make some hard decisions NOW before you get in over your head. If you come here, you will find caring and support.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
continuing spousal support	rumrunner	02/22/07 10:13 AM
You could ask,	Melody	02/22/07 01:09 PM
Re: You could ask,	Gecko	02/22/07 04:28 PM
Re: continuing spousal support	Miranda	02/22/07 01:00 PM
Re: continuing spousal support	Susanf31	02/22/07 01:13 PM
Re: continuing spousal support	Gecko	02/22/07 11:45 AM
Re: continuing spousal support	rumrunner	02/22/07 12:41 PM
Re: continuing spousal support	Gecko	02/22/07 04:36 PM
Re: continuing spousal support	toniceaguy	02/23/07 07:27 AM
Re: continuing spousal support	rumrunner	02/23/07 10:08 AM
Re: continuing spousal support	Susanf31	02/23/07 10:41 AM
Re: continuing spousal support	PhoenixRising	02/22/07 11:43 AM

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