My wife concluded, 2 years ago, she needed to take "another road", but "divorce really doesn't effect children; especially, if one parent is truly unhappy".
So, fast-forward to the present: divorced, joint custody with 40% with my 3 and 7 year-old children paying over $600 per month in support and half of insurance deductibles.
The ex-wife chose to put our 7yo in private school and thinks I should pay because "we had discussed this issue while married and agreed upon it"; plus, she "knows" I can afford it?
Stupidly, I have wanted to reconcile since the issue of divorced surfaced, some time ago. I have worked on her car, paid monies well outside the parameters of my decree because she told me she was broke and had huge credit card debts. Recently, I found out she has been taking time off from work to travel to the local casino to gamble. So, I pulled the "plug" on writing her checks...well, now she states (angrily) she was spending "her money" and I am a control freak by condemning her for gambling and taking time-off to do so...I think we are well pass the point of "repair and reclaimation"?
Now, I am "hammered" 3 to 4 times per week for money for this and that. I have been threatened, repeatedly, about returning to court over money issues, but the decree is clear in regard to the aforementioned in my second paragraph.
My question is: "Am I less of a father and/or man, if I chose to find happiness in relocating 2,000 miles away, in pursuing my career, moving closer to family memebers and fulfilling my new dream of having a 100 acre farm vs. avoiding my ex-wife/confrontations, living in the suburbs commuting 100 miles RT to work.
I would like to arrange in having my children during the Summer and Spring or Christmas Break(s)which equates to over 20% versus my current 40%.
I'd like some opinions on this; especially from divorced moms. I love my children, but I can't eat $&!* forever; plus, I can't find, within myself, a valid reason to continue commuting to my present job locale.
Am I wrong or am I right in my plans and/or thoughts..?
PS: ...and she, recently, came to my home and made me a birthday cake. :smirk: Is 2K miles far enuf?