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Reged: 04/07/07
Posts: 1820

Re: It's not possible to consider

05/03/07 06:40 PM

[quote]every possible outcome prior to marriage. [/quote]

Many of them can be lumped together and provided for by a big bunch of cash. Cash allows for many options when things happen down the road. Making major potentially dangeous financial decisions when people aren't in a positon to do so....spells potential disaster.

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For example, there WAS no internet when I got married...thus I wouldn't have been able to consider taking on-line classes during the marriage.
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Community college? Night classes? Not getting married till you finished college? Not having kids till you finish college?

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My ex was NOT a supportive person to my college courses.
[/quote]

But you chose to marry and stay with him anyway. Continuing choices....

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If I took more than one course per term I had to deal with constant grief from him over watching the children while I attended classes.
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So you had kids before you got your education. Another choice.

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My point really is that it's not always possible to go to school WHILE being a SAHM.
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And my point is that it's a choice to become a SAHM before you got your education. Make choices and live with the outcome.

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Also...it's not possible to predict having a handicapped child....OR to predict how well your partner will shoulder the burden with you. [/quote]

Hmmmm.....to have ANY kid you better have a boatload of cash. USDA said having a kid in the year 2002 would cost approx 250 grand to raise on avg to age 18<no college expenses>. So my feeling is that unless you can confidently walk into a bank and get a 18 year loan for a quarter million bucks without putting up any collateral<unless you plan to let'em repo the kid>.....then you're not in a financial position to have a kid. A little thought beyond that says a kid with a handicap will cost more...likely much more....so....you really need more savings to allow for that possibility.

As for a slacker partner....pre-marital counseling? Living together for a while? Being married a while before having kids? Things like this should tell you how someone is likely to act in the future. See warning flags? Don't move forward until you fix the existing issues.

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If I agreed with you then we'd both be wrong.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 02:40 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	TGSM	05/06/07 12:12 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/06/07 11:51 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	TGSM	05/06/07 01:18 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/06/07 02:06 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	TGSM	05/06/07 03:25 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/06/07 06:33 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	TGSM	05/06/07 07:40 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	txks1151	05/06/07 04:34 PM
methinks her defrauding is reason to call hotline	matart1	05/07/07 06:46 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Rebecca5	05/06/07 07:08 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Relayer	05/06/07 07:32 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Rebecca5	05/06/07 07:47 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Relayer	05/06/07 06:32 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/06/07 12:00 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/06/07 12:42 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Redlegg	05/06/07 01:02 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/06/07 12:55 PM
One question, and a statement...	gr8Dad	05/04/07 02:44 AM
Re: One question, and a statement...	Gecko	05/04/07 11:16 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	nrvouswrk	05/03/07 03:51 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:08 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 04:01 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	nrvouswrk	05/03/07 04:26 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	spinnerdegrassi	05/03/07 04:44 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 04:56 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:23 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	spinnerdegrassi	05/03/07 05:06 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 04:59 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 04:48 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	trophywife	05/03/07 04:50 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 11:43 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:21 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	spinnerdegrassi	05/03/07 04:54 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 04:30 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	yregna	05/17/07 06:24 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	rosie716	05/22/07 06:36 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:18 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:12 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	nrvouswrk	05/03/07 05:21 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	matart1	05/03/07 04:42 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	changes	05/03/07 04:34 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 04:36 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	changes	05/03/07 05:58 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:15 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 04:41 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	BeckaLeigh	05/05/07 01:04 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	nrvouswrk	05/03/07 05:02 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 06:12 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	nrvouswrk	05/03/07 06:18 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 04:52 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 04:55 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 04:59 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 05:06 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 05:09 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	trophywife	05/03/07 04:44 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 04:47 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	changes	05/03/07 04:09 PM
It's not possible to consider	Melody	05/03/07 06:16 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	Susanf31	05/03/07 09:17 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	nrvouswrk	05/03/07 09:24 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	onerose	05/04/07 07:55 AM
Re: It's not possible to consider	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 10:41 AM
Re: It's not possible to consider	Marie_ss	05/04/07 01:36 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	Gecko	05/04/07 02:25 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	onerose	05/04/07 08:09 PM
One Rose's comment about Gecko	trophywife	05/04/07 08:16 PM
Re: One Rose's comment about Gecko	Gecko	05/04/07 09:48 PM
So you don't think I should get SS	PhoenixRising	05/05/07 12:07 PM
Re: One Rose's comment about Gecko	onerose	05/04/07 08:20 PM
Re: One Rose's comment about Gecko	spinnerdegrassi	05/04/07 08:30 PM
Re: One Rose's comment about Gecko	spinnerdegrassi	05/04/07 08:19 PM
You calling teachers stupid?	Melody	05/05/07 01:43 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	changes	05/03/07 06:40 PM
Easy to have such clear hindsight	Melody	05/03/07 09:10 PM
Re: Easy to have such clear hindsight	changes	05/03/07 09:23 PM
You go way too far	Melody	05/05/07 01:39 PM
Re: You go way too far	changes	05/05/07 02:51 PM
semantics!	Melody	05/05/07 03:01 PM
Re: semantics!	changes	05/05/07 03:07 PM
Not worked up at all....	Melody	05/06/07 02:59 AM
Re: It's not possible to consider	Gecko	05/03/07 06:26 PM
Re: It's not possible to consider	changes	05/03/07 06:48 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 05:10 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	changes	05/03/07 06:13 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 06:19 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	changes	05/03/07 06:46 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/04/07 11:10 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	changes	05/04/07 09:03 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	trophywife	05/03/07 05:11 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	matart1	05/03/07 03:36 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 04:07 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Debbie_L	05/03/07 03:17 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Relayer	05/03/07 09:57 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 03:29 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 03:55 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	trophywife	05/03/07 03:37 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Miranda	05/03/07 04:30 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 04:17 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	matart1	05/03/07 03:39 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Susanf31	05/03/07 03:40 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	trophywife	05/03/07 03:44 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Cabodad	05/24/07 11:24 AM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Gecko	05/03/07 03:23 PM
Re: Discussion - Alimony	Debbie_L	05/03/07 03:26 PM

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