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PhoenixRising
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Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers

05/04/07 12:08 PM

“But if a person is so completely foolish to rely on just one person's income for the long haul then I call it foolish”

I agree w/ you although “naïve” might be a better word.

Jaclyn says that it is okay for her to be a SAHM because “divorce isn’t an option.”

Okay, lets not even start w/ all the problems conjured by that statement and leave it at face value. Even if two people stay married, shyt happens. Disasters, illness, catastrophes happen.

A very good friend, SAHM has a child that became very ill and nearly died. The good news is that a treatment was found and it looks like the child will make it. The bad news is the insurance company deemed the treatment “experimental” and they are denying payment. Their bills are over $500k and they are only halfway through.

My friend was like Jaclyn. An up and comer. She worked w/ in the financial markets; she chose to stay home the last 10 years. If she had stayed working, her potential salary at this point could probably pay off that debt in one year. She (like me) never thought about the fact that “choosing” to be a SAHP is a huge gamble.

I was/am a SAHM for the last 13+ years. Yes, as Becka said. I loved it. I loved being first to hear their soliloquies of their day.

HOWEVER, looking back, it was naïve and stupid. I have risked my family’s financial future because I selfishly wanted to stay home and make play dough with my kids instead of being a responsible adult and looking out for them, financially.

To not maintain or not gain marketable skills for the “just in case” scenario is not just foolish. It is irresponsible.

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Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	leegirl	05/04/07 10:01 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Runswithscissors	05/05/07 11:03 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	focusedon2	05/04/07 10:01 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	supermansdaisy	05/04/07 06:58 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Gecko	05/04/07 09:52 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	KatyLee	05/04/07 08:14 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Gecko	05/04/07 01:20 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	youngatheart	05/04/07 12:49 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	PhoenixRising	05/04/07 01:08 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	RJ1	05/04/07 12:23 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Avaya	05/04/07 12:37 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Debbie_L	05/04/07 12:37 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 01:16 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 01:30 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 01:23 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Avaya	05/04/07 01:28 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 01:34 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	elliesmom	05/04/07 12:52 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	rschiller	05/04/07 01:09 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Debbie_L	05/04/07 01:02 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	RJ1	05/04/07 01:12 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	matart1	05/04/07 11:46 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	PhoenixRising	05/04/07 12:08 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Gecko	05/04/07 01:37 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	KatyLee	05/04/07 12:15 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	elliesmom	05/04/07 12:13 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	PhoenixRising	05/04/07 12:44 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	KatyLee	05/04/07 12:06 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Avaya	05/04/07 12:01 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	jeffnjaclyn	05/04/07 11:28 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	KatyLee	05/04/07 11:02 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	onerose	05/04/07 10:44 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 11:11 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 01:26 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 02:11 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 03:30 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 03:43 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 03:31 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 03:46 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	onerose	05/04/07 03:51 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 03:56 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	onerose	05/04/07 03:58 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	onerose	05/04/07 03:35 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 03:48 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 03:40 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 03:42 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Gecko	05/04/07 01:51 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 01:56 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	sassyisme	05/04/07 01:39 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 01:57 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 03:48 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 03:53 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 02:12 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 02:15 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 02:18 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Gecko	05/04/07 02:45 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 02:54 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 02:56 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 02:59 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 03:09 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 03:27 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Avaya	05/04/07 04:00 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	joym525	05/04/07 04:02 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 03:32 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 02:33 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 02:45 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 02:54 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	KrazyKat	05/04/07 03:30 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Debbie_L	05/04/07 01:52 PM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	preemiemom	05/04/07 11:30 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 11:24 AM
LOL nrv	BeckaLeigh	05/04/07 11:58 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Debi	05/04/07 10:30 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Witch23	05/04/07 10:21 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	Avaya	05/04/07 10:30 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	elliesmom	05/04/07 10:55 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	sassyisme	05/04/07 10:38 AM
Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers	nrvouswrk	05/04/07 10:20 AM

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