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Re: Stay at Home vs Work Outside Home Mothers
      05/04/07 12:23 PM

Children bond to their parents not to their teachers or daycare workers. Parents are the ones who care for and love the children 24/7 no matter if they are working or not, not their caregivers during the day. Children are not dummies...they know who their family is. So when someone says they don't want someone else "raising" their children I say it's not the way that works. They go to school at age 5 and are with teachers all day long anyway.

I work and always have and always will. I decided to have a career when I was 15 years old. I stuck with it and I've achieved my goals in 26 years. There is not a man, woman, or child that could make me quit to stay home. It's not a matter of money, it's a matter of how hard I worked to be what I am and the college and the studying and the hard work that it took...WAY before I even THOUGHT of having children. And my child gains a lot from knowing how hard I worked and still work. He sees the determination every single morning while we are getting ready to leave for work and school. I say it's good for him not bad.

And if I decide to take a "mom day" and not go into work, he basically gets his underwear in a wad. He WANTS me to go in. His philosophy is if he has to go to school then I should have to go to work. So not all children get this notion of calmness, cool breezes, and happiness just from a parent staying at home.

If I DID stay at home I'd be fat, a TV junkie, never get dressed or put makeup on, I'd be comatose by the time he got home from school, and probably stay ill as a hornet from no adult interaction. I probably get more done by working than I would by staying at home. And I STILL go on field trips and work at the school, I still parent him every single day just like SAHPs do. I may stay up later but it's all the same to me. Actually my son loves after school care. Daycares are not these evil, murderer-making places that people think. There are a lot of advantages I see in my son from attending daycare and the teachers he has now sees it too.

JMO.

RJ

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