Susanf31
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Re: Alimony in Indiana?
05/25/07 11:53 AM
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Exactly how is it that one spouse allows the other spouse to be able to pursue an advanced degree? It's not possible to do without? My wife was starting her MBA while we dated, and finished up the first 2 years we were married. Logic dictates that my position in the household didn't allow her to get the degree, since she was already working FT, raising SD and pursuing it PT prior to the marriage. I'm also not sure how it is that my wife herself is contributing to my pursuit of my masters, by alleviating things? I still work FT like I did before, my wife has the same schedule she did prior to me starting it, so exactly what has changed that encompasses her actions allowing me to pursue further education anymore than my actions allowing her to pursue her MBA?
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I know you don't understand because you don't know what it's like to be primary caregiver to 2 small children...primary custodian of the home and children while your spouse is the main breadwinner.
I've lived it. It's a partnership and a mutual decision.
Using myself as an example...I spent almost 3 years of my life pregnant...much of that time on bed rest. I spent 2 years of my life caring for a sick child. I spent another 2 years of my life moving to accomodate my H's job. As soon as my children reached school age, I returned to the workforce as a parttimer. Both my husband and I agreed that we didn't want daycare babies, so we came to a mutual decision that I would not work outside of school hours.
I know you don't understand the joint-effort of such a partnership. But it is true that my being home with the kids enabled my H to work whenever and whereever he pleased. He was able to follw a career path that he would not have been able to follow if he were sharing more equitably in the parenting duties. Afterall, we couldn't both be out of town on travel. We couldn't both be taking night classes. You can't do all of those things and still be able to give your children the time and attention they need.
Don't forget, kids are like dogs that you can kennel when you need a break. They need LOTS of time and attention. if one parent is working and going to school, the other parent must be there for the kids. If both parents are working fulltime, going to school at night and traveling for business, who is giving the children the time and attention they need?
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