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almostheaven
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"is there anything I can do to change her"...
      08/07/05 08:38 AM

Nope. You can't change another person. She has to change herself. I'd suggest couples counseling if she'll go.

I'm seeing this in my own sister. Her husband was caught cheating. Now she watches him like a hawk and is constantly accusing him. I've tried to talk with her that she might push him away. Yup, he cheated, but now they're going to counseling and she can't let go, while he's doing everything in his power to try and please her and prove he's doing right now. He's hanging in because frankly, he knows that none of this would have happened if it weren't for what he did. However, one can only hang in so long. But they have to be willing to try everything first. And counseling is the first step. But if she won't go, still...go for yourself. Because it may ultimately end and you'll need all the help you can get emotionally.

As for the house, if WA is a community property state, it could be that she'd be entitled to half the equity. They won't make you give her the house, but likely make you pay her half the equity. But that would be up to a judge, being that it was a family home you recently inherited.

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* Emotional (Abuse Am I Nuts) AmINuts 07/24/05 06:33 PM
. * * Re: Emotional (Abuse Am I Nuts) Sleepie1012   06/14/06 03:30 AM
. * * Re: Emotional (Abuse Am I Nuts) Doll   08/05/05 10:46 AM
. * * BTDT Melody   08/05/05 12:11 PM
. * * Re: BTDT Parenting2   08/05/05 07:04 PM
. * * no diffirence between being hit or threatened... almostheaven   08/06/05 07:09 AM
. * * Re: no diffirence between being hit or threatened... johnmarx69   08/07/05 04:45 AM
. * * Re: no diffirence between being hit or threatened... babydoll   08/18/05 11:33 AM
. * * Re: no diffirence between being hit or threatened... luv2boys1girl   08/18/05 05:11 PM
. * * "is there anything I can do to change her"... almostheaven   08/07/05 08:38 AM
. * * Re: "is there anything I can do to change her"... johnmarx69   08/08/05 06:09 AM
. * * You just have to do it Melody   07/24/05 07:26 PM
. * * Re: You just have to do it goldilox   08/05/05 10:18 AM

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