BetsyR
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Re: is this settlement fair to both of us?
07/14/07 08:09 PM
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Karen, it did me good to read your story -- so much like mine -- & see how strong you are. I'll get there too, God willing.
I don't intend to sell myself short. I'm going to try to get well over 50% of our joint retirement accounts. Stbx earns enough so that he can build his back up over the next 10 years. It's too late for me -- I'm lucky, at my age, even to get a job w/ health insurance.
You wrote, "Your STBX reluctance to answer e mails etc. indcates to me that he just wants to move out and to hell with the legal aspects. I don't think that indicates a lot of cooperation will be coming from his end." Yes, & he's also saying: to hell w/ our kids, to hell w/ my reputation in my hometown, to hell w/ my conscience!
You wrote, "Once I filed for divorce and it was in the hands of the legal system my EX could no longer delay things as easily as he had been. Within a few weeks of my filing there was a temp. court hearing. The magistrate and judge court ordered what the temp financial arrangements would be, who would have occupancy of the house , how we would split paying taxes, insurance, repairt to the house. Financial restraining orders were put into place that pertained to accounts." That's what I'm about to do also -- use the court to make the ostrich pull his head out of the sand.
You wrote, "The fact that it was not resolved in a timely fashion worked against my EX. The results were the same as I suggested at the onset... 50/50... plus he had to pay some of my attorney fees. The judge said that was because my fees were higher due to EX's habit of not responding in a timely fashion and it then required additional action on the part of my attorney and the court." I was going to ask that stbx pay ALL fees associated w/ the divorce, so he sees the futillity of delaying the process. Can I get that?
You wrote, "Your stbx could come and empty the house of it contents, empty any accounts. Changing the locks is one thing... he can also have them changed. He could then gain entry and your keys would no longer work. He could break a window and enter, he would not be breaking the law." Can I ask in my filing that he stay away from the house?
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