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Re: newly separated and feeling bad
      09/24/04 09:11 PM

I can relate. Although fortunately there were no kids involved, I finally demanded that my ex-husband leave and never come back. He is bi-polar, and was very controlling and abusive. He left, for the LAST time, in July. I was ecstatic when I regained my freedom. And, since our marraige had been dead emotionally and legally for some time, I had met another man online. We have since met and are taking things very slowly and cautiously. I am delighted with my new relationship, but I am also depressed about the loss of my previous dreams. It has taken a couple of months for the full impact of the loss to hit me. It helped that I had someone to support me emotionally. but I know that these feelings have to be dealt with. I know they have nothing to do with my new romantic interest. It's just difficult learning to love ME again; and I know that loving someone else is not the answer. Therapy helps, but you have to be honest with yourself. And you have to love yourself enough to insist on a relationship that is not abusive!!! In other words, feeling badly is not enough of a reason to go back to that. I know because we had already tried that-BIG MISTAKE. It only gets worse. Hang in there, being alone is much better than being abused.

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* newly separated and feeling bad Terry 08/13/04 10:24 AM
. * * Re: newly separated and feeling bad TLL   10/04/04 04:49 AM
. * * Re: newly separated and feeling bad soontobedivorce   09/18/04 10:37 AM
. * * Re: newly separated and feeling bad freeagain   09/24/04 09:11 PM
. * * Re: newly separated and feeling bad Onyx   09/04/04 03:14 PM
. * * There's lots of help out there... almostheaven   08/29/04 07:05 AM
. * * Re: newly separated and feeling bad Diane67   08/28/04 11:10 PM

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