CiCi
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Selfishness
07/22/07 09:28 AM
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Hi you all! I've missed you - but have been keeping my nose to the grindstone on looking for a job and working (for pay) at my neighbor's house painting, purging the kids' rooms and organizing their "stuff".
So....I got a little hot under the collar on the "I am Sad" string and it's triggered several hours of thought in my brain. Annoyedengland posted that while she is not the OW in the truest sense of the word, she is the new GF of a man who, from the sounds of it, moved away from his kids. I don't know - maybe I'm wrong, but my thoughts are still raging on.
What ever happened to "for better or for worse"? When did we, as an entire society, become so very selfish that all we think about is our own needs. I realize that there are some people who desparately need to get out of a marriage or relationship - those who are abused, etc. But, in my case, my ex was just unhappy so decided to pursue a relationship with someone else and move away....away from his child who should be his number one priority (in my humble opinion). I'm not saying he doesn't deserve a life - whatever that may look like to him; but what I am saying is that he entered into responsibilities with a clear mind and what makes him think that he can just walk away without putting effort into fixing what is broken? Why can't the guy just make a choice to be happy or find happiness within himself so that he can fulfill his responsibilities. I know that some people just aren't really compatable, but there are so many resources for us to utilize in this day and age that it seems such a shame that he chose not to utilize them....to offer both of us the opportunity to grow and make life changes so that our life together could be better.
I get that everyone has to take care of themselves and be their own best advocates in life. But, what ever happened to doing the right thing and MAKING their life great despite odds. Making lemonade out of life's lemmons? I always try to teach my daughter that she won't get everything she wants in life; that she will meet people she won't get along with, but may have to work with and therefore, she needs to find a way to deal; that she will have situations where she's uncomfortable and will have to find a way to resolve it; and most importantly, that she should value herself first, but always consider the feelings of others when she chooses to do something that may have great impact on their lives and the world! Every decision she makes will have an impact not only on her, but on many people around her - so I always want her to make very special consideration when she does something potentially hurtful.
Am I making any sense? I know my thoughts are jumbled...but I just keep wondering when and why so many people stopped considering other people and became so selfish?
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