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JustMeAndThree
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What do I need to do? Sorry so long...

08/01/07 08:07 AM

Our first divorce hearing (rule nisi) is Aug 13th. I'm trying to get my ducks in a row. Becuase I filed and my stbx is technically supposed to show cause why I shouldn't be granted the things I requested...doesn't that mean HE is the one who should have the burden of proof? I'm trying to get all my records etc together just in case. If he can't prove why I shouldn't be granted what was requested will I need to prove that I SHOULD?? Most of you know there is an issue with the tax return thing...I'm documenting (with bank statements and receipts) almost to the penny what it was spent on. I'm also getting together records for my pay and what I pay in bills, also with receipts etc. I have the domestic violence incident report from when my daughter called 911 becuase stbx was choking me. I have kept a journal since I moved out Feb 5th with dates and times that he has taken kids...excuses he's made for not having them, etc. I've also logged any conversations that may be of importance including quotes of derogatory things he has said and done to my children and I. Most of you also know the issue of my oldest not being his BD but he signed the Aff. of Paternity to have his name on this BC. He contested that in his answer claiming that "So and so did sign my name to the birth certificate" which is crap...I have a copy of the actual form with his signature that's notarized. I have copies of the tax return and w2's showing how much each of us made last year and how much of the return came from credits becuase of the children and the childcare that *I* paid. I've also documented the few times he's given me money or helped me with something like cutting my grass (those times are very few and far between). I have the military records from his suicide attempt/threat in 2005 including the emails he sent me leading up to it. I have the print outs of all his "profiles" on the internet looking for other women to have sex with. Most of which were done while I was pregnant with or just had our two youngest children. My daughter just turned 11 and in GA the courts can hear the wishes of an 11 - 13 year old (14 and over can choose if court feels ok) anyway my oldest wants to write a letter to the judge about all the things that go on at her dad's house. He counselor has told her to start jotting down all the things she wants to say and then will assist her with writing the letter (not telling her what to say but basically be there when she writes it for moral support) I have pretty much stayed out of that. I'm letting my daughter write what SHE wants not what I think she should. This is her thing and I've encouraged her to be completely HONEST. Even if the judge wants to talk to her...she is to make sure she is honest about things he has done as well as things I have done in the past. I am no angel but I'm working to be a better parent and person. Ok, now all of that said. Am I as prepared as I CAN be? Am I going to look organized or vindictive walking into the court room with my "evidence"? I don't want to give the wrong impression. Should I take these things with me or limit what I take? I don't foresee my husband bringing much of anything other than a nervous bladder with him. Unless he does some serious organizing between now and then he wouldn't even know where to find half the crap. He doens't usually keep receipts. (I've seen his house...) He doesn't even keep a check register (he goes on memory and atm balance...occasionally calling to get info on his acct) most of his transactions are in cash becuase he takes out money constantly. Most of my transactions are via check or debit card so I have proof of where it went and receipts to show what was purchased. Ok enough now. Gimme yer thoughts and opinions please. I really need to advice, criticism and opinions to help me prepare for this.

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What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/01/07 08:07 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	PhoenixRising	08/01/07 09:22 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/01/07 09:51 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	BetsyR	08/01/07 11:54 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/01/07 01:17 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	ChaseR	08/01/07 02:11 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	Patrice	08/04/07 04:48 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	Karen1	08/04/07 08:44 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/02/07 08:52 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	Drew	08/01/07 11:12 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	BetsyR	08/02/07 10:28 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/03/07 06:53 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/02/07 08:53 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/01/07 01:12 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	Karen1	08/03/07 04:41 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/04/07 09:41 PM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	Relayer	08/01/07 10:58 AM
Re: What do I need to do? Sorry so long...	JustMeAndThree	08/01/07 11:39 AM

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