Renee
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4022
Loc: The Palmetto State
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Oh Boy....
08/05/07 12:02 AM
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Alright guys.... I've got a dilemma. In the grand scheme of things its a wonderful dilemma to have, and I do realize that, its just scary nonetheles.
The xSO is now the BF. Last month we took a roadtrip to Charleston, he spilled his heart out to me, and everything he's said or done the last 6 mos or so has shown he's got a changed attitude about life. We've talked about how things were the last time and resolved and apologized for a lot of mistakes on both sides.
I'm nervous, but happy. He's my best friend and he's opened up to me in ways he never did before. Last nite while we were sitting on the front porch and having one of our usual talks, he asked, for the 2nd time, if I would put my engagement ring back on.
I responded on instinct with a quick no. I think that ring symbolizes something very important and I think its too soon after getting back together. I asked him if things were going ok as they were and he said yes, and I said we had time - no rush, and he backpedaled and said it was just a question.
I've been thinking about it all day. I pulled out all my tools and started finishing up a house project today and thats what I tend to do when I'm working something over in my head. I finally got brave and talked to my mother about it, and she came up with a couple of things that I'd not considered. I guess I just wanted to know if anyone out here would think she's on to something. Basically she said its one of two things, or its both of these things:
-He's nervous about losing me. I've not changed my normal routine to one where I'm on his doorstep every day or cking in with him. We thoroughly enjoy our time together but my time doesn't revolve around his availability.
-He's showing me that he's ready for a committment to me by the changes he's made in his life, and he wants me to demonstrate my committment by wearing the ring. We have discussed the possibility of getting married when the boys are older, but I don't like to get wrapped up in the future what-ifs. I just want to live in the present and enjoy how great things are right now, because life can change on a dime.
I don't know..... I guess I'm making wearing a nice piece of jewelry into some kind of drama. Its not like putting it on means we'd get married next year or even the year after. I guess I'm just scared. Things are going sooooo well now, and the last time I put that ring on things went down hill.
Anyone with any insight?
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