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pinkhibiscus
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Re: Sorting it out

08/21/07 06:25 AM

Sexual addiction, as I understand it, is an addiction to pornography, especially to an extent where it affects a person's ability to relate sexually to another person in a normal fashion. As a result of the continued viewing of pornographic material, the person's view of sex becomes fantasy based instead of reality based. In my case, I felt as though my husband always had unrealistic expectations of how sex should be (never a loving, tender act) and from the very beginning of our relationship had problems off/on with impotence. Over 27 years of marriage, he has rarely been able to thoroughly enjoy straight sex. Over the years it has gotten worse.

I'm certainly not a professional therapist, I can only speak for my experience. I've rarely felt that our sex life was what it could/should be. For me, getting kinky in the bedroom is fine, but I believe it can be difficult to go in that direction unless there is already a safe and solid physical relationship between two people. We just never were able to foster a "safe sex" life (in other words one where each partner is willing to make themselves physically and emotionally vulnerable to the other). Consequently, I've always felt fear and anxiety in the bedroom because I didn't think I would be able to live up to my husband's expectations.

Don't know if this explanation makes sense to you or not. Right now I'm not in a very focused place and may not be expressing myself at my best.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Sorting it out	pinkhibiscus	08/19/07 09:34 AM
Re: Sorting it out	matilda	08/19/07 10:40 AM
Re: Sorting it out	pinkhibiscus	08/19/07 12:20 PM
Re: Sorting it out	matilda	08/19/07 02:37 PM
Re: Sorting it out	AtWitsEnd	08/20/07 08:45 AM
Re: Sorting it out	pinkhibiscus	08/21/07 06:25 AM
Re: Sorting it out	AtWitsEnd	08/21/07 07:06 AM
Re: Sorting it out	pinkhibiscus	08/21/07 10:44 AM
Re: Sorting it out	Relayer	08/21/07 04:02 PM

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