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We are currently living together and I am getting ready to file for a divorce, but I need to move before I do it because he said that he would not help with daycare or any other expenses if I filed. I cannot do it by myself either.

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Just how far away are you proposing to move the toddlers away from their father?

There are several things that you need to take into consideration:

Mainly, their ages. You said toddlers. To me, that is real young. The long distance parenting plan really isn't all that good for very young children. It involves extended time away from both parents. Real young children need frequent contact. Not months in between contact.

As for his threatening not to help financially, that is an idle threat. When you file for divorce, you will also file to get temporary child support set-up. I recommend asking that it is garnished from his wages.

You can also file to get temporary spousal support set-up so that you can continue to pay for the marital bills while working on the settlement.

I would also like to point out just how important it would be for your children to have their father close to them.

If they are close, they don't have to give up summer activities (he will get most of the summer and most of school breaks/holidays) because they have to go to spend time with their father. And if they are close, their father will be able to go and see them play their sports when they are older. And that is important to the kids. They like to know that both parents care enough to take the time to watch them play a game. Or even practice.

By moving too far away, you will deprive your kids of that.

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