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Sorry to hijack your thread, truly I am......;o)

However, there are always different ways to do things. For instance, if you can work at a job for the moment, couple that with your child support, your children will eventually go to school, which will allow you to go on to higher education yourself, if that's what you choose. It's not impossible -- I raised my now 18 and 15 year olds alone, away from family -- went to nursing school when my youngest started kindergarten.

Was it hard as anything I've ever done? Sure was......but the kids and I got through it together. I didn't have any family around me either and HAD the freedom to move -- I simply chose to do it myself. The kids went to daycare and before and after school and I had sitters that came in for them while I worked.

Was it a perfect solution? No, it surely was not.....but they turned out fine, good students, hard workers and most of all, decent human beings that understand the value of hard work and doing it together --

Look around and see how creative you can be to remain in the area where your kids' dad is.....while it may not seem as if he wants to be with them now, it's up to you to take the high road and do the right thing FOR YOUR KIDS. When we become parents, we give up the right to make ourselves first until they are much older, as mine are.

My husband has a 12 year old that lives about 50 miles away -- and while we want to move out of our area desperately, there is NO WAY he will put any further distance between him and his child. His ex was permitted to move that distance by him, something I think he regrets but he takes a lot of time on his relationship with his child. We won't leave the state until his child has graduated from high school and started on his future -- and that's as it should be.

I didn't have these issues as my husband worked all over the world as a marine engineer and could always travel to see his kids -- does he regret those choices? Sometimes I think he does, but it's what paid the bills......

Think longer and more creatively about what you can do in this situation.

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I'm not the OP of this thread. I'm done with college. I graduated a couple of months after I got married. And I am currently working full-time.

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