I've searched the laws, I've read case decisions and appeals, I've gone over this whole stressful situation over and over. I've printed out a ton of articles about relocating with out of state with children, and the worst thing I've done was to post here to only be attacked personally when no one knows anything about me, my ex, the relationship that we both have individually with the children, the extent of the relationship with the extended family, whom the children never see. They have a close relationship with their 3 year old brother, and I'd due to have another son in December. I've talked with several lawyers regarding this case, and I've fought with my current husband about this freakin move on a regular basis. Hes taking the job, I'm left to choose between my spouse and his 2 sons, or my 2 daughters and leave them behind with their father. The job is in SC, by the way and its a 20,000 a year salary increase from what hes making now. Thats a lot of money when you are supporting a family on your own. I stay home with my kids. Whats wrong with that? I'm proud of my children. The emotional attachement that I have with all of my kids is strong. I could never be apart from any of them, and I'm sure they would struggle being away from their mother as well.
The girls have never had a significant seperation from me. Their dad however just comes and goes when he pleases, and has the pleasure of pursing his career goals and whatever else he wants from life when I guess I don't have the right to. I don't have the right to travel with my husband without sacrificing 2 of my children according to everyone. I dont believe thats fair and I certainly don't believe its the best interest of the children. But thats what I'll have an attorney for. I let him/her fight this battle for me,because I have to. Like I said, hubbys taking the job regardless of my situation here. But I told him that if the judge won't allow the move, then I'm not leaving. I would appeal of course, but I won't leave 2 of my kids.
I know a lot of you feel that the best interest of the kids is to have a healthy relationship with their father, but you do not know what hes like. Its to long to explain, and I'm sick of explaining. This whole situation has gotten me stressed so much, that I'm feeling depressed and unable to control the situation. I get on here, and continually to find cruel remarks directed towards me and I just unable to keep it together. My feelings are hurt from complete strangers, and that makes no sense to me at all on why it bothers me so. Maybe because if you knew me, and my children and have known what I've overcome with them, maybe you would be a little more compasionate.
I don't need anger mgt classes. I try to be the best person that I can be, but everyone has their limits to what can be said to them. I blew up at BeachBabeRN, yes I know this, but I can only say that I'm sorry. She had me in tears with her remarks and I was being extremely sensitive and defensive. I would hope that all of you would want the best outcome and I will let you know what happens regardless. If I can move great, if not, then I'll overcome that when it happens. Until then, I am too sorry for hijacking this post and hope that everything works out for her in the end.