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Re: One other thing.....
09/28/07 11:21 AM
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Taking the job no matter what? And that's a man worth following? If my husband EVER told me that I'd tell him to go right ahead and oh, by the way, have a nice life while you're at it.
I read the other posts and I understand more of the situation.
I think the problem lies with the husband making this decision "no matter what". Knowing that she, without employment, would feel that she has no choice but to follow. The simple solution is to stay put, get a job, and attain her "career goals". And release some of this dependency on a husband. One of the WORST things a woman can do, in my opinion is rely on a man -- any man -- for support. It's not 1952 anymore.
And I don't buy that the father is a "Charles Manson", as Relayer put it. Ask the vast majority of ex-wives and they'll tell you awful things about their ex-husbands - myself included. Especially if it helps them argue their case, as it does in this situation.
There will always be bigger, better opportunities somewhere else. But your ability to pursue those opportunities decreases greatly when kids are involved, and even moreso when a divorce comes into play.
I have NO sympathy for women who cry helpless as they sit at home while their husband slumps off to work. I don't disagree that being at home with mom is great for children, but if it's not great for the overall situation a sacrifice has to be made. We all do it. I had my son in my senior yeaer of college but I managed to finish (still a year early), work full time as a publicist WHILE completing my MBA...all the while as a single parent. So I have literally no patience for a woman who says they simply can't swing it when they have a husband and/or other resources to help. I struggled for years, but knew I had to do it for my son and along the way I've managed work myself into a very successful career. I don't technically "need" to work, my husband's income is more than enough to support us all but I do work not only because I like my job, but because I don't think I have the right not to.
In this case, her mind is made up -- she's going she just needs to figure out the best way to do it -- and is looking for justification/approval.
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