When my ex-wife and I divorced, a portion of our Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) contained stipulations about the sale of our "marital home." The document stated a date by which the house would be placed on the market. We also agreed to a split of the proceeds with 65% going to my ex and 35% going to me.
During the divorce settlement conference, my ex and I sat for the longest time with our two attorneys and one additional attorney who was the court-appointed mediator of the proceeding. What took the longest time was the discussion and decisions made regarding which one of us would get which pieces of furniture and furnishings. I'm certain most of you have been through this very same process. So...we started in the basement and we didn't finish until we had completed the attic....the entire structure...inside and out.
Every single stick of furniture and every single piece of furnishing....right down to Christmas ornaments....were catalogued. On Appendix A went every single item that was to go to my ex NLT closing day of the sale of the home. On Appendix B were listed all of those items that would be going to me prior to the sale of the home. Basically, I thought the process was pretty fair and I was satisfied.
Well, the day before closing, June 29, 2007, I was allowed to go to the house (first time in four years since I had been locked out of my own home). I had my 9-year old daughter with me, along with the owner of the moving and storage company who was to be in charge of packing, moving and storing every single piece of stuff I owned...everything....until I could get settled in a new home myself. My ex had already long since moved out of the main marital home and had bought another new home (on $$$ she "stole" from our investment accounts, unknown to me, 1-week before serving me with divorce papers after 25-years of marriage).
Well...you can imagine my shock, chagrin and dismay when, upon entering the structure I had spent the happiest days of my life....i was staring at 12-rooms of absolutely nothing....total open space without so much as a plate still left there. Twelve empty rooms. That was it.
The moving and storage guy looked and me and me at him and it was only then that my little girl piped-up and said, "Daddy, mommy took everything out of the house and most of the things that were yours she has either given away to friends and neighbors or she has thrown out." I went into a blind rage after that.
I asked my kid how she new that and she said she had witnessed "mommy" giving neighbors my brand new, stainless steel outdoor kitchen, my flat screen monitor, my favorite chair, etc., etc. I felt as though I had been raped by the thieving witch.
Well, long story short...since June 30th, I have seen nothing, my "ex" has laughingly thrown it in my face that she had certain items she knows that I want. Probably most hurtful is that she now has possession of MY great-grandfather's 24k solid gold pocket watch that my late mother gave to me the morning after we buried my father. She loves it. I, well I would like to put out a contract on her.
The FINAL INDIGNITY came just a month ago when my attorney told me, flat out, that I will never be able to recover any piece of furniture or furnishings, that the courts will NOT require that my ex give me anything since she has already admitted to the court that she kept nothing. In other words, the thief has gotten away with murder....well, grand theft, but you catch my drift. My lawyer, my accountant and I estimate the value of all items she has stolen at $140,000. My lawyer just told me that the very, very best I will ever do...and even then it is doubtful....is that PERHAPS a judge will allow me salvage value on some of my pieces. In other words, the African chest that was purchased for $5K just prior to our separation might...MIGHT....bring me $50 IF the court chooses to attach a salvage value to it. My attorney has told me to look at it this way....IF I AM LUCKY, I may recover some pennies on the dollar equivalent to an amount as if all items had been sold off in a rummage sale.
And the thieving [censored] gets away with it! THERE IS NO JUSTICE IN THIS WORLD...especially for men. The system has failed me miserably and she has gotten away with murder.