Lazerus
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Re: Dazed and Confused in NJ
02/07/08 11:23 PM
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Game Day 2:
Criminal hearing was last night. I was represented by the state and my lawyer coached me on exactly what I should and shouldn't do.
First I have to say that I asked my lawyer with all honesty how I can use this criminal thing to my advantage? He made it clear that I am ahead of the curve on the whole divorce situation and he believes I can pull ahead even further because things with my STBX are not improving (mentally).
So I am in court and through my friendship with the Chief of Police I ask if we could fast track the case before roll call with the Prosecutor.
I meet with the Prosecutor and make my wishes known, that I want to have the charged removed if the STBX get's anger management classes. He will not remove the charge, just reduce it so she doesn't lose her job over this (which she could if convicted of the original offense).
After a few minutes of information passing between me, the chief the STBX her family and the prosecutor, all is arranged and I go home.
I get the thank you from the Aunt (supervisor) today and a whole story about how the STBX is not on meds yet, not responding to therapy and there is concern that she may need to be hospitalized. In all that I get the apology for having to put up with her decline into a worsening mental state for 15 years...the aunt has only had her for three weeks...I must be a freaking saint!
Long story short, I completely kept them off balance again...they expected me to demand the book be thrown at her. Now...the question that some of you may be asking....
Why? Why do that, Why spare her, Why care?
The answer....strategy. At the end of the day, my stock is rising while her's continues to decline. Everything is still about her and her illness and I am just trying to get the mother of my children to get help. Considering what everyone has been told about me...there is quite a new picture being painted and I have just increased the score 4 to 1 and have proof that my intentions are not to harm her, only get her well so she can be a mother.
While this is true, there is always motive behind my action. The first motive is a safe, sane, healthy parent. The second motive is to make every attempt at making her pay the price for her actions for a change, but without harming her fragile psych so much that the first motive get's increasingly more difficult. The final reason for my sparing action is image...I need to continue to earn my place in the uphill battle as a man, showing that I have compassion, care and willingness to continue to help another human being, even if it is a woman I can never forgive for hurting our son.
That's the lasted update and things are looking better and better.
Game day 3 will be the official word of the filing of the divorce complaint...I should make it out of the gate first...I'll know more tomorrow.
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