>>>>>Why care whether or not HE's motivated by CS reduction if indeed "money has nothing to do with it?"<<<<<
I'm not sure I saw it claimed that money "had nothing" to do with it. But defending against accusations that it was the "only" thing to do with it.
>>>>>Except, of course, she opposed modifying CS so far. Why oppose something that is not an issue to you? How can you oppose modification to CS while claiming you don't care about modifying CS? <<<<<
Or, she's opposing going back to court right after just coming out of it, for the same issue that was already addressed in court.
>>>>>They've tried long weekends and Christmas and he wouldn't go for it. What else is she supposed to do? How about try something other than long weekends and Christmas? <<<<<
Well if you will send kids, who don't want to go that long, who's counselor has advised against it for that long a period of time, to someone they hardly know because that person has shown that its NOT about the time...since they won't take the time they have and the extra they've been offered, then you go ahead and do that to your kids. Most people wouldn't.
>>>>>How about trying long weekends DURING the Summer to see how that goes before trying anything else, as I suggested?<<<<<
Ummm, what part about he didn't WANT long weekends hasn't occured to you?
>>>>>The point is to allow a relationship to form, with consideration for the safety of the kids of course. Not block it because you have the power to do so.<<<<<
Exactly! So she's not jumping for jooy to pack them off for a whole summer with someone who's PROVEN (counselor and track record) to NOT have consideration for the safety of the kids mental well being at least.
>>>>>And after they've lost touch with this screwed up guy completely, and it makes them feel sad for the rest of their lives, the kids don't ever need to know that you went to court to prevent some summer time to get to know dad, right before he disappeared from their lives for good. You're the winner, remember?<<<<<
Ummm, DAD moved, to be with the new Miss Thang, DAD calls off his own visits, and DAD won't take extra time she offers. Oh, and DAD won't bring up summers or any thing else as an option when they go to court. He instead files to go again right after THIS court session ends.
>>>>>And she's worried about legal fees of an appeal. Avoid/minimize them by solving this out of court. By compromising/trying new things rather than trying to win.<<<<<
I still don't see what she hasn't compromised and tried, but that he won't accept.
-------------------- Char Fox
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