>>>>>That's a quote from christine1. That's her position that you're defending. You are reading these posts, right?<<<<<
Yes I'm reading them. I don't have the time, or desire, to run through all of them again trying to decide if what you're saying is a quote or your own text, since you leave it quite unclear. You COULD make it more clear as to when you are quoting something, or even when you are making up fantasy conversations like it appeared to be at the end of your last post.
>>>>>And the accusations of money being sole motivation were NOT made by me so why are argue me about it? To me it's clearly money+time+control.<<<<<
And to me it's not.
>>>>>Nobody said he was nice or prudent of him to threaten to go back to court. I understand not wanting that. However, not budging puts christine1 on a path to go back to court, because if he follows thru, he appeals. Compromising and changing the parenting plan avoids the appeal, if successful. So she WANTS to go back to court more than compromise out of court, if that is indeed her final choice. Maybe she SHOULD go back to court. But let's not pretend she's really against going back to court while also doing nothing to avoid court.<<<<<
It's the "not budging" part I keep questioning. Where do you get that she's not budging. What gives you the impression that she's not trying anything else, short of giving him summers, which both the kids and counselor are against and which would NOT be in their best interest?
>>>>>What makes the weekends and Christmas previously on the schedule okay, but weekends or some weeks in the summer so dangerous? Nothing. Remember she's offered multiple ways for him to take them already. Just, not Summer.<<<<<
I saw nowhere where she stated she wouldn't give him weekends or weeks in the summer, just not ALL summer. That is the ONLY thing I saw her state she wouldn't go for. Perhaps you could point out where (and make sure you let me know it is quoted) she stated that she wouldn't give him long weekends or any weeks in the summer?
>>>>>I'm not saying HE'LL compromise and work up to an extended summertime visit. I'm pointing out that SHE'S refusing to try. Who knows what he'll do but we DO know what she's said. Multiple times already I've pointed out that HE'LL likely back out and it'll be a nonissue. Again, are you reading my posts?<<<<<
Quite frankly, I didn't understand perhaps 50% of your last post. I muddled through what I could make of parts of it. It's still the "she's refusing to try" part I can't grasp...not from her posts I've read, and understood much more clearly.
>>>>>I think by ignoring my off-the-cuff but explicit proposal for "six weeks-ish" and only after successful extended weekends proves that I'm not saying ship them off for "a whole" summer. And that you're not reading/comprehending.<<<<<
Perhaps she didn't comprehend you any better than I did? Perhaps its not always everyone else's comprehension levels?
>>>>>[quote] I still don't see what she hasn't compromised and tried, but that he won't accept. [/quote]
Please show me what she has done to compromise, and this list of alternatives she's tried. I haven't seen it. <<<<<
Like I said above, I have neither the time nor desire to re-read through umpteen posts and quote. I DID however read that she's offered him longer weekends and weeks during holidays and he wouldn't take them. And I know you read that too. So there's the alternatives she's tried, there's the compromising. She's offered him what she's not court ordered to give and the only thing he WANTS, or says he wants are full summers.