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Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad

06/16/08 10:10 PM

My sis is going through this at this time. Her ex is sending papers for change of custody. Nephew is 13. Only child and she has raised him since 2 as primary. She is so depressed and hurt. I tried to tell her that this is pretty normal for that age to want to go live with Dad. The problem about this whole thing is that Dad is not going to be around much to supervise and allows alot of freedom and sis has already seen her son get caught up with the wrong kids and doing juvenile activities. That is one reason why her son wants to live with Dad.

>>>>>> An opinion , perhaps the child wants to spend time with their other parent to make up for " lost time " .

Her ex not only requested the change based on son's preference but also to make sis look bad her threw in some deal about misconduct. She has no idea what he is talking about. Sis is a sthm mother and her husband has a very good job.

>>>>>>> So ? She's a SAHM mother for a 13year old ?

Ex is seeking full custody with her visitation, him to not pay support anymore and requesting child support from her.

>>>>>>>> Did she seek CS from him as primary custodial parent ?

He goes on and on about how she can make this great living. Out of work force now for 6 yrs.

>>>>>> How is she supporting her child ?

Her ex at 56 yrs old has an 11 month old and not married to the mother and no plans to marry.

>>>>>>> So ?

Sis feels this whole custody thing is about one thing....MONEY.

>>>>>>> I take it she waived CS because it wasn't about money ?

Ex sent a letter recently making demands, threats and tells her she better do everything his is asking or else type thing. She is willing to do joint and the child wants that...50/50 and to make the child support thing a wash.

>>>>>>> What prevented her from sharing 50/50 & no CS earlier ? Was it only good as long as she received a weekly check ?

Her ex makes very good money on his own.

>>>>>> Your sister might have made a good living if she hadn't decided to abandon ther workforce for 6 years .

I don't think her ex truly has the child's best interest at heart.

>>>>>>>> But she did when deciding to seek primary custody & CS ?

Sis thinks after this summer the child will not like living with her ex and want to come home.

>>>>>>>>>> Wishful thinking .

I think a temporary agreement throughout the summer would be great and review things before school starts then come to an agreement as to what was working during that time and go from there.

>>>>>>> Is his how custody was decided initially ?

Sorry that you are going through this with your son. Your concerns have merit and I also saw how ex's can manipulate a child into thinking things which are not true. Good Luck and love your son and be there for him when needed.

>>>>>>>> Funny how NCPs manipulate custody to get out of CS but CPs that face paying CS themselves decide that 50/50 and no CS is apropriate .

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My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	someday	06/12/08 04:46 AM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	sadie46	06/12/08 07:54 AM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	googledad	06/16/08 10:10 PM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	cycler63	06/18/08 04:34 PM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	someday	06/12/08 08:49 AM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	Relayer	06/15/08 12:38 PM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	someday	06/15/08 05:57 PM
BINGO!	almostheaven	06/19/08 12:48 PM
Re: BINGO!	googledad	06/19/08 10:52 PM
Re: BINGO!	Relayer	06/22/08 09:35 PM
Re: BINGO!	someday	06/24/08 10:28 AM
Re: BINGO!	Lanie4889	07/10/08 10:40 PM
Re: BINGO!	almostheaven	06/20/08 09:43 AM
Re: BINGO!	someday	06/20/08 11:41 PM
Re: BINGO!	rnmom34	06/21/08 09:43 AM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	googledad	06/16/08 10:12 PM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	sadie46	06/13/08 08:19 AM
Re: My teenager is leaving me to be with his dad	sunnyday	06/12/08 10:07 AM
My daughter is 9..	greeneyes	06/14/08 05:16 PM
Re: My daughter is 9..	almostheaven	06/19/08 12:56 PM
Re: My daughter is 9..	someday	06/15/08 06:20 PM

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