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Re: not married
      06/23/08 06:35 PM

You prove the article below is correct. For the rest that are more concerned about our children, please keep on topic and respond as adults?

So typical of the femin azis and homosexual activists (like Maury). They can't support their thoughts with facts, so they ridicule instead...

People who belittle others are only belittling themselves

by Marie Mandolin

The act of belittling another has the purpose of lowering that persons self esteem, whilst temporarily heightening that of the offender. In reality people who belittle others tend to already have a rather low self esteem which is why they attempt to fix it by putting others down.

The effect is rather like that of a see saw. As the importance of the victim falls, the importance of the perpetrator seems to rise. This rise is short lived and has no real value, which is why the act is repeated continuously as the perpetrator seeks to try and solve their own problem.

The victim is often a person who is vulnerable and so thought of as easy prey. As the perpetrator belittles them it can become apparent to others that the victim is being unfairly treated. This can help to reveal the true intent of the perpetrator and in-turn discredit them.

At other times a social game is engaged in whereby witnesses of the belittling join in on the act and enjoy a group bonding. On the outside these people may seem smug, but inwardly they know that they are behaving badly and so guilt creeps in.

The guilt which is secretly experienced by the perpetrator and any of their followers, serves in a self perpetuating manner by lowering their self esteem even further. The individual, or individuals, involved realize that they have behaved in a low down manner and so see themselves as being bad people.

The cycle then continues as they feel the need to lift themselves and may do so by belittling yet another victim or by carrying on picking on the same person. Where the same person is belittled further the perpetrators motive is to truly discredit the victim so that they can prove their original belittlement as being correct and so ease their guilt for their behavior.

The psychology of the reasoning behind a persons action of belittling another is interesting as it shows that the cycle of the behavior of the perpetrator is very difficult for them to get out of once set in motion.

To come clean and admit that they have acted unwisely by behaving badly is too much for most perpetrators to bear, so they continue as they always have done.

We can see that the person who belittles others really does belittle themselves as they force themselves into a corner that they find it very difficult to move out of. Having lowered their own self esteem further and further by repeating to themselves their own belief that they are unworthy as a person, and so deserving of no respect, they diminish their credibility and confidence.

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* not married undone123 06/23/08 11:23 AM
. * * Re: not married LAFather2   06/23/08 01:40 PM
. * * Re: not married PhoenixActivist   06/23/08 01:55 PM
. * * Re: not married NJFather   06/23/08 02:02 PM
. * * Re: not married Maury   06/23/08 02:18 PM
. * * Re: not married SirHumpALot8   06/23/08 02:19 PM
. * * Re: not married Maury   06/23/08 02:20 PM
. * * Re: not married IMissThem2   06/23/08 03:45 PM
. * * Re: not married DubiousWonder   06/23/08 03:54 PM
. * * Re: not married LogicalGeorge   06/23/08 06:33 PM
. * * Re: not married Maury   06/23/08 06:34 PM
. * * Re: not married LogicalGeorge   06/23/08 06:35 PM
. * * Interview with Kook Maury   06/23/08 06:38 PM
. * * not married LogicalGeorge   06/23/08 06:42 PM
. * * Re: not married LogicalGeorge   06/23/08 07:00 PM
. * * Re: not married SirHumpALot8   06/23/08 02:23 PM
. * * Alter Egos of E ric Maury   06/23/08 02:24 PM
. * * not married MSPappa   06/23/08 02:34 PM
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. * * Re: not married undone123   06/23/08 11:39 AM
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