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Re: Afraid of what divorce will do to my girls....
07/01/08 01:51 AM
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When my kids were in grammar school, they had a course called Second Step to teach them how to "fight fair" As goofy as it sounds, I learned a lot from it.
The first rule of fair fighting is .....use "I" statements, like "I feel like I am always being criticized" "I feel like nothing I do is good enough" Do you see how that is less confrontational than "You are verbally abusive" ?
The second rule is do not use the words never and always. Saying "I know how hard it is to work full time and take care of two little girls, but I miss date night, I miss the great sex we had that got us those two girls" is much more likely, if not to get sex that night at least to get the communication going than, "We never have sex anymore" and "You always shut me down when I'm trying to be romantic"
It's worth a shot........good luck !
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