rogerisright
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Re: Living in a nightmare
09/23/08 06:07 AM
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It appears as though "Mullen" may or may not still be monitoring this thread but just in case here goes... I live in Oregon and I am very familiar with it's laws regarding DV (Assault IV w/ enhancement to a felony for doing it in front of the children) could get you 1-5 years in prison. In this case you will get time served ...the DV anger package aka anger management counseling a few small assessments and time served w/ 1 -2 yrs of court supervision. The reason you can't let this happen is because it would make you a convicted felon and you will have a very difficult time finding a good job and a decent place to live especially since it's for DV. You will not get custody of your children at the current time ...sorry!
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This thread is very important for everyone to take note of...why? because even someone who is as jaded as I am couldn't help but feel bad for "Mullen" and the other posters apparently were also able to see the irony and poetic justice that this role reversal provided for us all. It also highlights how quickly women are willing to "go to guns" over what they feel their birthright is ...custody. In this case I can't help but think that "Mullen" is probably better suited to raise the children but unfortunately a judge won't ever get that far in his thinking. THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING IN EVERY COURT ROOM IN EVERY COUNTY IN THE USA EVERY SINGLE DAY TO MEN! ... We as fathers (by and large) want to be a very important part of our children's lives forever just like "Mullen" does but the courts too often do to men what they are about to do to "Mullen" .. and that is tattoo the abuser label on her and send the kids home with the other parent. How typical that she immediately discounts her husbands desire to be the primary caregiver into dollars and no sense...it may be true and it may not be true but shouldn't the first thought be that he isn't only motivated by not having to pay support? I am a Catholic ... not the cafeteria kind and as a christian who believes marriage is a sacrament didn't include the word divorce in my vocabulary until I had no choice. God answers all prayers ...except sometimes ...painfully the answer is no. in this case unlike so many other cases where the wife gets the mine and the husband gets the shaft the husband has never even ever raised a hand to his wife and her side is 100% fantasy and posturing and he doesn't get to only spend 12 hrs in jail and some end up spending 3-6 months and more ... the felony ruins what they have worked for professionally their entire lives! It takes all of their hopes and dreams and in one instant takes them all away based upon nothing but pure selfish evil ... and that's not right. I had a case here in Oregon where the wife was told that hsbnd was leaving and was looking for his own place ...one of their issues was the wife's unwillingness to "take care of their personal intimate business" except a few times a year when she felt like it. The hsbnd being a sexual being resorted to dirty magazines and in fact had a small collection he kept hidden in various places around the house. When wife would find them she would throw them out and nag hsbnd over it again and again. hsbnd moves to his own place and he and wife start to try to work things out and one evening when wife was over at hsbnds place they start to argue ..loudly... about that same issue and hsbnd tells wife that he has some new girlfriends and they are all in his closet in a box ..wife storms into his room and goes for the closet door and husband stops her and physically restrains her from throwing his collection away and in the process she falls to the floor and gets a rug burn on her knees ..pretty good ones. The neighbors hearing the disturbance call the cops and they show up and see the wife's knees and hear her story and then they go talk to the husband to get his side as you may have guessed they charged him with assault IV do you know why he got off?? husbands defense was that he was exercising his right to protect his property (his [censored] collection worth over 250.00) that was in immediate peril of being unlawfully taken from him. not exactly on point just a funny story about how crazy and vindictive stuff like this makes people that I thought I would share from my experiences last month.
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The bottom line is sometimes the laws the DV industry has forced upon us all based upon their good intentions (and hate of men) backfires which hopefully helps bring the how ridiculous the actual enforcement of them can be into proper perspective. These laws have taken away the cops ability to utilize his or her own judgment in matters like these. In Mullen's case pre DV industry lobby the cop would have had both parties walk around the block (separately) ...maybe go stay at a friends house that night or grab a room at a hotel ... it would have given both of them a chance to cool off and take a look at the bigger picture..hopefully they would both feel ashamed for the way they behaved and the next fight they had the following day would be to see who got to apologize to the other first followed by wonderful make up sex. fast forward to reality and the DV industry gets to claim another marriage becuz the laws they forced on us required that one party go to jail and their no drop policy in that law required the DA to enforce it to its ugly conclusion no matter what. shame on us for thinking that a law would fix something better than someones good judgment. don't get me wrong I don't trust cops to always tell the truth or exercise good objective judgment very often but in domestic relations issues like this their track record isn't that bad and it beats ruining one spouses life every single time no matter which one's it is.
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