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Re: Relayer ----
09/24/08 03:08 PM
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[quote]Well, if you're not going to try to take the kids or money from him because he's a jerk in txt and the phone, then do this:
1. keep all the txt and email and mail so far to document your case
2. get a digital recorder and attach it to your phone. Record the convos. If you live in a two party state, tell him you will record the convos. That should be enough to shape him up right there.
3. block his txt and phone #. Or screen.
4. don't have conversations with him outside of email. Not one word. But be decent in email regardless of what he does.
5. get good at ignoring the "noise" in his email
6. let him know that each txt, letter, or phone convo will go to court to hold him in contempt for noncooperation, etc. He'll lose because of your strongly documented case and pay all legal fees.
7. if he persists or pusues you in person or forces his way into your home or whatever, he's harassing you and treat him like the criminal he is.
The law will help if you do need an RO and have proof; ROs are easy to get even when not deserved. If you deserve one and use it appropriately, go for it if necessary.
Again, not all claims are false and not all ROs are misused. Just that 1st claim holding more credence than counterclaims is a problem since mutual abuse is more common than one-sided, attaching settlement rewards to ANY claims is a problem, and err'ing on the side of "victim women/victimizing men" is a problem. [/quote]
Great advice. That's exactly what I've done for two years. I have over 100 pages of journal entries (only 3 pages of actual provable harassment) and about 4 hours of recorded verbal abuse as well as video footage of emotional and verbal abuse. I forward every text to my email and print those out along with every abusive email. I save every abusive voice message.
In spite of all this evidence, I was advised to "hold off until we need it" so that the "divorce can be about dividing equally your assets instead of viewed as 'you're out to get him'."
It just make no sense to me. It's a 50-50 friggin' state! I just want the abuse to STOP!!!! Oh yeah, and get my 1/2 already so I can MOVE ON!
Thanks for your suggestions. You're right on!
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