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NanV58
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Re: Nav....just a question for me please

11/28/04 10:05 PM

I am glad that you asked as I specifically referred back to the final judgement which states " that in lieu of a child support order, the parties agree to share equally, all costs and expenses associated with the minor children."
Since the judgement did not specify how we would carry out equally sharing all costs and expenses associated with the children, we agreed informally and then in writing (but with no court order) that we would submit expenses to each other on a monthly basis. I would pay half of what he submitted and he would pay half of what I submitted. If there was any discrepency we would discuss it. There were very minor problems with this arrangement from 2000-August 2002 when, as I have stated, my ex out of the blue informed me that he would no longer ackowledge any expenses that I submitted. He stopped any assistance and no longer sent me any receipts.

When I asked my lawyer about this she advised me that it wasn't worth it to take him to court for a few hundred dollars and I didn't argue about it. Okay, so mom just keeps doing what she has been doing and dad will hopefully do the same. But that hasn't been the case.

Am I being totally dense or does anything I am saying make sense? My 14 year old son has not worn a pair of pants that his Dad has purchased in two years. I buy the winter coats each year (on sale), and see to it that they get haircuts most of the time (Dad takes them twice a year). While our younger son has played baseball from before the divorce until the present, Dad no longer contributes to registration fees and while he and his new wife actually fitted our son for his state championship jacket two years ago, he never paid one dime toward the $92 jacket. Twelve kids on the tournament team. What do I tell a 9 year old. You can't have the jacket because Dad won't pay for half? No, I purchase it and he proudly wears it to school and back and forth between both our homes. This same Dad won't acknowledge expenses and then has the nerve to call me to ask that I provide nice outfits for the boys to wear for a holiday when the children are in his custody. I've had said okay to this and much more for two years.

Something has to change. How do you ignore it when your children come to you with holes in their sneakers after spending a week's vacation with Dad in the middle of February. Do you call Dad, get angry, and insist that he buys them, or do you just get to a store, regardless of anything else and put decent shoes on your kids? We are talking about a man with a master's degree who is a teacher like I am. We both have decent and fairly equal salaries.

What am I missing?

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	NanV58	11/27/04 08:44 AM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Gecko	12/01/04 01:55 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	NanV58	12/01/04 03:18 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Gecko	12/01/04 05:08 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	NanV58	12/01/04 05:17 PM
This is exactly why	Melody	11/27/04 09:02 PM
Why should there be ANY support?	gr8Dad	11/27/04 09:09 PM
Re: Why should there be ANY support?	NanV58	11/27/04 09:46 PM
You should really try READING...	gr8Dad	11/27/04 11:04 PM
Re: You should really try READING...	NanV58	11/28/04 09:03 AM
Re: You should really try READING...	NanV58	11/28/04 09:08 AM
One quick question Nan...	gr8Dad	11/28/04 04:05 PM
Re: One quick question Nan...	NanV58	11/28/04 06:57 PM
The point is...	gr8Dad	11/28/04 07:06 PM
Re: The point is...	NanV58	11/28/04 08:09 PM
Nav....just a question for me please	Melody	11/28/04 08:42 PM
Re: Nav....just a question for me please	NanV58	11/28/04 10:05 PM
Well...nothing personal...	Melody	11/29/04 01:42 AM
From what I gathered...	gr8Dad	11/28/04 09:16 PM
Re: From what I gathered...	NanV58	11/28/04 10:37 PM
Re: The point is...	aussie928	11/28/04 07:13 PM
Guess what mate...	gr8Dad	11/28/04 07:31 PM
Re: Guess what mate...	aussie928	11/29/04 12:47 PM
I have posted it here before...	gr8Dad	11/29/04 05:51 PM
Re: I have posted it here before...	aussie928	11/29/04 06:11 PM
Not to mention...	almostheaven	11/29/04 08:12 PM
Do YOU read it before you post it?	gr8Dad	11/29/04 06:22 PM
Re: Do YOU read it before you post it?	aussie928	11/29/04 06:36 PM
Re: Do YOU read it before you post it?	aussie928	11/29/04 06:32 PM
The fact that you would...	gr8Dad	11/29/04 06:41 PM
No Gr8Dad...	Eric	12/02/04 11:22 AM
Bite on this. . .	tjonzen420	12/03/04 12:32 AM
Re: Bite on this. . .	aussie928	12/04/04 05:14 PM
No, really, how do you feel?	gr8Dad	12/04/04 02:35 AM
Re: No, really, how do you feel?	tjonzen420	12/04/04 10:49 PM
Love the names!!!!	Melody	12/04/04 01:08 AM
Then you'll adore this....	almostheaven	12/04/04 09:59 AM
Don't be sorry...	almostheaven	12/03/04 09:02 AM
Re: No Gr8Dad...	aussie928	12/02/04 01:18 PM
Re: The fact that you would...	aussie928	11/29/04 08:03 PM
Re: The fact that you would...	aussie928	11/29/04 07:39 PM
Re: Guess what mate...	almostheaven	11/29/04 01:26 PM
Why do you think it is funny?	gr8Dad	11/29/04 05:53 PM
You're so predictable...	almostheaven	11/29/04 08:14 PM
Ah, the TRUE "AlmostHell"...	gr8Dad	11/29/04 08:20 PM
Re: Ah, the TRUE "AlmostHell"...	almostheaven	11/29/04 08:41 PM
Ah jeez, you guys	Melody	11/29/04 08:45 PM
Re: Ah jeez, you guys	aussie928	11/29/04 09:56 PM
Sorry, Aussie	Melody	11/29/04 10:36 PM
Re: Melody's Right	Diane67	11/30/04 11:50 AM
Back to topic on 50/50 and shared bills	NanV58	11/30/04 03:14 PM
Yours is pretty unique, Nan	Melody	11/30/04 07:59 PM
Re: Why do you think it is funny?	aussie928	11/29/04 06:14 PM
No, I hold women to the same standard...	gr8Dad	11/29/04 06:23 PM
I don't care what other....	Eric	11/29/04 06:28 PM
Re: I don't care what other....	Onyx	11/30/04 03:58 AM
Re: Guess what mate...	aussie928	11/29/04 10:08 AM
More "double talk"	Eric	11/29/04 10:45 AM
Re: More "double talk"	Onyx	11/29/04 02:53 PM
Stopping dissing...	almostheaven	11/29/04 05:03 PM
LMAO!	Melody	11/29/04 06:45 PM
Re: More "double talk"	aussie928	11/29/04 12:30 PM
Do you read what you write?...	almostheaven	11/29/04 09:06 AM
Re: Do you read what you write?...	NanV58	11/29/04 05:06 PM
Re: Do you read what you write?...	aussie928	11/29/04 06:22 PM
Re: You should really try READING...	Onyx	11/28/04 09:23 AM
Re: You should really try READING...	Onyx	11/28/04 08:06 AM
Re: Why should there be ANY support?	aussie928	11/27/04 10:36 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Onyx	11/27/04 12:18 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	NanV58	11/27/04 05:15 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	aussie928	11/27/04 08:49 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	NanV58	11/27/04 09:03 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Onyx	11/28/04 08:09 AM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Gryph	11/27/04 10:37 AM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Eric	11/27/04 07:01 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Onyx	11/27/04 10:29 PM
Re: LEGITIMACY OF EXPENSES	Onyx	11/27/04 10:26 PM
What are YOUR expenses?	gr8Dad	11/27/04 09:10 AM

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