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Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F*
      11/29/08 07:07 AM

[quote]Nothing you have described is DV.

Do you have a courrt order barring your D12 from entering your home ? If not, then a court order was not broken when your daughter entered your home (with the code that , presumably, you gave her !)

Is the divorce final ? If not, why don't you go to the marital home and get your stuff ? [/quote]

Finz, the problem is orders of protection or whatever they are called in different states are issued without blinking an eye and all of a sudden the STBX becomes "abusive".

It's a total disservice and takes away resources that should be used on real cases, because obviously, domestic violence is very real.

I blame this on the lawyers, because if the can paint the STBX as an "abuser", it gives them a big leg up in court. It is CERTAINLY encouraged by lawyers that people like the OP do these things because it drags the case out (more $$) and helps with the win.

It's a big business in my county, where 80% of all divorces have OP's attached to them.

It's insantity, because "abuse" is painted with a very wide brush. Is physical violence abuse? Certainly. Is there such a thing as "verbal abuse" that falls into orders of protection? Yes, and that is wrong. If someone is saying something to you, you have 2 choices. Listen or not. If someone is beating the piss out of you, you don't have a choice and need protection. And unfortunately, they are usually taken out against men rather than women, for a variety of reasons.

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* The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger 11/19/08 04:14 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* BeckaLeigh   12/02/08 10:31 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* sally1234   12/02/08 10:38 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* BeckaLeigh   12/02/08 02:07 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/02/08 10:56 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* BeckaLeigh   12/03/08 12:10 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Yes_Dad   11/23/08 05:34 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   11/23/08 10:22 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Yes_Dad   11/28/08 05:09 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   11/29/08 05:11 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* CrapStinks   12/02/08 02:51 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/02/08 09:55 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/02/08 09:57 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* rizzinstl   12/02/08 10:24 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* FRFather   12/02/08 10:43 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* FRFather   12/02/08 10:11 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/02/08 01:29 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* GBFather   12/02/08 01:46 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/02/08 01:41 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/01/08 03:19 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/04/08 08:59 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/04/08 10:53 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* IMissThem2   12/04/08 11:28 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/04/08 11:54 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/06/08 01:46 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/07/08 10:43 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/08/08 02:44 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/08/08 08:36 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/09/08 03:42 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* BeckaLeigh   12/09/08 12:23 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/09/08 02:55 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/10/08 12:26 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* WYFather   12/10/08 12:44 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/10/08 02:43 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/11/08 10:34 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* BeckaLeigh   12/11/08 10:52 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/11/08 10:27 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/15/08 08:02 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/17/08 02:05 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/17/08 07:35 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* finz   12/18/08 01:21 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* NCPadre   12/18/08 01:37 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/16/08 12:53 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/16/08 10:46 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* EOP   12/06/08 03:02 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Maury   12/06/08 03:21 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* IHatefPIGS   12/06/08 03:28 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Maury   12/06/08 04:04 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* IHatefPIGS   12/06/08 04:14 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Maury   12/06/08 04:16 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* IHatefPIGS   12/06/08 04:17 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* JBGuud   12/04/08 09:18 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* almostheaven   12/01/08 08:19 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* CrapStinks   12/01/08 09:59 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* javajunkiee   12/01/08 05:38 PM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Yes_Dad   11/29/08 07:07 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nolonger   12/01/08 12:30 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* nannygoat   11/29/08 11:00 PM
. * * There would be recourse... almostheaven   11/20/08 06:52 AM
. * * Re: There would be recourse... Yes_Dad   11/20/08 06:39 PM
. * * Re: There would be recourse... nolonger   11/20/08 08:41 AM
. * * Re: There would be recourse... Yes_Dad   12/06/08 04:53 PM
. * * Re: There would be recourse... NofPigs   12/06/08 04:56 PM
. * * Re: There would be recourse... finz   12/07/08 04:45 AM
. * * Re: There would be recourse... AKFather   12/07/08 08:11 AM
. * * Re: The latest incident - what can I do? Nothing. F* Maury   11/19/08 10:03 PM

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