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qeggleston1
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A Tired Mom in VA

12/01/04 01:11 PM

I welcome any help I can get. I'm the proud mom of a 5 year old son. I was awarded child support in VA- Dec. 2002. I recieved a total of $500 in 2003 and a total of $850 in 2004. Since December 2002, I've worked 2 jobs trying to make ends meet.
When I was awarded support in Dec 2002, The judge ordered the dad to pay me $820 per month. I begged the judge to lower the amount, thinking the high amount would keep the dad away from my son. The judge reluctantly awarded $450.00 because I begged her to.
Once the dad left court, my son had stayed with him for a total of about 2 visits. So, reducing the amount didn't keep the dad in the picture.
In August 2004, I opened a case with the Child Support Enforcment office. My son's father quit his job once he received notification from the CSE office. Being sympathic to my son's father once again, I didn't claim the thousands of dollars that were due to me in arreas. I claimed a total of $1200. The CSE case worker asked me if I was sure if I wanted to claim the low amount and I told her I felt if I claimed the thousands of dollars it would affect the relationship my son had with his dad.
Well, the dad didn't wish my son a happy 5th birthday this year, no gift,, nothing. Yet he called me on my son's birthday to argue about the case.
My son's father has recently gotten married and his wife is an attorney who works out of her home, They live in one of the richest area's in VA and he drives a brand new truck.
In November, I received a notice from the Child Support office saying my case was being reviewed per the dad's request and I needed to provide income, daycare and medical verification. Which I happy provided.
I've made many consessions to my son's father, I've been sympathic and at times made poor decisions regarding the matter at hand by letting him off the hook. If I can work 2 jobs to support my son,,,,How can the office of child support reduce or even stop my payments?? (Payments I've never received consistantly.
From what I see, the dad is choosing to be unemployed because his wife is willing to take care of him at this moment.
Please give your advice and thanks for your help.

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A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/01/04 01:11 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	Eric	12/02/04 11:00 AM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:32 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:24 PM
Tired Mom...	Eric	12/02/04 01:44 PM
Re: Tired Mom...	aussie928	12/02/04 01:46 PM
Child support Costs	aussie928	12/03/04 07:33 PM
How is some of this possible?	gr8Dad	12/03/04 07:50 PM
Re: How is some of this possible?	aussie928	12/03/04 09:31 PM
The whole study is old and flawed...	gr8Dad	12/03/04 11:39 PM
Re: The whole study is old and flawed...	aussie928	12/04/04 02:40 PM
Of course...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 04:19 PM
The courts don't seem to share your view	Melody	12/04/04 08:50 PM
Re: Of course...	aussie928	12/04/04 05:48 PM
And that is where we differ most...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 06:09 PM
Re: And that is where we differ most...	Gecko	12/04/04 07:25 PM
So you think it is fair...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 07:34 PM
Re: So you think it is fair...	Gecko	12/05/04 03:08 PM
Geeeeccckkkkieeee Babe?	Eric	12/05/04 03:26 PM
Re: Erica Babe?	Onyx	12/06/04 07:20 AM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them." (nm)	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:15 PM
Re: Geeeeccckkkkieeee Babe?	Gecko	12/05/04 03:33 PM
Gecko.......AND OTHERS.....	Onyx	12/06/04 07:28 AM
How cute... :)	Eric	12/05/04 03:37 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them."	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:16 PM
Re: How cute... :)	Gecko	12/05/04 04:39 PM
Re: How cute... :)	aussie928	12/05/04 03:40 PM
Not to defend Eric, BUT...	gr8Dad	12/05/04 04:02 PM
and, why would you not...	Eric	12/05/04 04:45 PM
Re: and, why would you not...	Onyx	12/06/04 07:23 AM
"girly man"...	almostheaven	12/06/04 08:39 AM
Re: and, why would you not...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:50 PM
Re: Not to defend Eric, BUT...	Gecko	12/05/04 04:40 PM
Re: Not to defend Eric, BUT...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:33 PM
How stupid...	Eric	12/05/04 04:39 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them"....	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:17 PM
Re: How stupid...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:41 PM
Re: So you think it is fair...	aussie928	12/04/04 08:58 PM
My responses, step by step...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 10:34 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 09:28 AM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Grace	12/05/04 12:45 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Eric	12/05/04 06:15 AM
Re: My responses, step by step...	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:11 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 12:43 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Onyx	12/05/04 12:00 PM
Between you and I, Big "O,"	Eric	12/05/04 12:45 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them." (eom)	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:12 PM
Think about it...	Eric	12/05/04 01:14 PM
Re: Think about it...	aussie928	12/05/04 01:28 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them."...	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:14 PM
Re: Between you and I, Big "O,"	aussie928	12/05/04 12:58 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 08:53 AM
Re: Of course...	Grace	12/04/04 04:57 PM
The problem with using that line of thinking...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:01 PM
Yes Gr8dad, BUT.......	Onyx	12/06/04 07:13 AM
Re: The problem with using that line of thinking...	Grace	12/04/04 05:23 PM
It would be an interesting study...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:32 PM
Re: It would be an interesting study...	aussie928	12/04/04 09:01 PM
No, I mean the fact that they...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 10:20 PM
Re: The whole study is old and flawed...	Onyx	12/04/04 03:25 AM
That is the problem with no fault divorce...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 04:14 PM
Re: That is the problem with no fault divorce...	aussie928	12/04/04 05:24 PM
Calm down MATE...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:35 PM
Yup. It costs more because of lifestyle...	almostheaven	12/04/04 10:04 AM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	aussie928	12/02/04 01:24 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:38 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	aussie928	12/02/04 01:45 PM
They won't "stop" them...	almostheaven	12/01/04 04:31 PM

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