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Debi
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Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???

02/04/09 09:51 PM

There is always a chance you could have primary placement. You are not going to keep him from spending some of his time with her. You can ask for a "no overnight guests of the opposite sex" clause to keep that from happening unless they marry eventually. Telling him could backfire on you as I'm certain she would use it in court to show that you don't have your son's best interest at heart. That won't win you custody.

I think telling your child the details is a horrible idea. You will be putting a lot on his shoulders that he doesn't need to be involved in. 13yo's aren't grown-ups and teens have enough to deal with of their own without being privy to their parents problems. I have children in his age range and the thought of sharing something that adult with them is unfathomable to me.

I certainly understand your hurt but the fact is she doesn't want to be married to you anymore. You can't force it and why would you want to? I wouldn't want to continue to be married to someone who didn't want to be married to me. One person can't save a marriage and telling your son that his mother is having an affair certainly isn't going to bring her back. You are certainly entittled to your vengeful fantasies. Most of us have had them, but it's just not a good idea to actually DO it.

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to tell whole truth to my son or not???	gm4	02/04/09 12:08 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Debi	02/04/09 09:51 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	gm4	02/05/09 09:18 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Debi	02/05/09 10:29 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	steve23	03/05/09 10:40 PM
SPAM	Maury	03/06/09 10:46 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/19/09 12:55 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	johnson27	03/03/09 06:22 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	03/13/09 08:39 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	childrenfirst	02/20/09 10:32 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/21/09 01:58 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/21/09 04:14 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/21/09 03:31 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/21/09 04:40 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/22/09 12:13 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/22/09 04:52 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/23/09 12:56 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/23/09 11:11 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/23/09 11:16 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/23/09 09:26 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/23/09 11:44 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/24/09 12:53 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/24/09 12:05 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/24/09 11:11 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/25/09 01:42 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/27/09 11:17 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/27/09 11:21 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/27/09 11:50 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	03/02/09 11:38 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/25/09 06:12 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/25/09 07:59 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/25/09 10:12 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/25/09 12:01 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/25/09 02:23 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	shortmarriage	02/25/09 02:38 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Redlegg	02/24/09 10:04 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	bjaks	02/25/09 01:24 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	gm4	02/05/09 09:24 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	Debi	02/05/09 10:22 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	finz	02/05/09 02:02 AM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	matart1	02/04/09 02:58 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	gm4	02/04/09 04:35 PM
Re: to tell whole truth to my son or not???	priceonthemile	02/04/09 06:44 PM

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