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aussie928
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Reged: 10/29/04
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Loc: Dallas

Re: The whole study is old and flawed...

12/04/04 02:40 PM

Sorry mate...but that is a pretty naive statement "It costs no more to raise the child of a doctor than it does to raise the child of a janitor." C/S takes into account basic needs..such as a roof over their head..utilities..food ..etc. This is exactly the problem with a lot of divorced fathers attitudes. While they were married could afford to live in a 500k home..which of course the utilites are much higher..and they are not eating beans and franks every night. Now they are divorced..they expect to continue to be able to afford that 500k house..saying all I have to pay for is a childs needs..a roof..etc. So get the cheapest place you can...and I will support this. When married they wanted the child to attend sports at the country club..now they are divorced..take the kid to the WMCA. Sorry.. courts dont see this and they shouldnt. You had this child..and this child has a right to expect very close to the same standard of living had your wife and you stayed married. It is the most recent study..and if flawed at all the numbers are lower then the cost today... You will jump on these sites...but blindly follow other information that has never been verified by a non partisan group. The fact is mate you are looking for something to validate your feelings. Then I suggest you just make up your own. They have the same merit. I am amazed that the same men here...gryph exluded...that say didnt want their wifes to work as they feel the mother needed to stay home...now think the ex should get off her bloody arse and get a job. The men here that think it is so cheap to raise a child clearly have no idea as they really didnt raise this child. Oh yeah..they put their check in the account but when it came to buying the wee ones what they needed but it was the wife who did the shopping, the cooking...the trips to the doctor.. etc....so you had no clue what it costs. THIS is part of the reason men have a harder time at getting custody. Recent case here..father sues for custody..daughter has a medical condition...he has no idea what it is ..what her medicine costs..what size clothes she wears.. oh yeah ..I have heard the arguement.. but he can learn.. my hell..this is his child.. shouldnt have to LEARN. IS it harder for us to prove we are the better parent..yes...as in most cases for the reasons I outlined..fact is we havent been. Yet these same men see no problem with the fact that women in the work force have to work twice as hard to prove themselves..and yet the reasons are basically the same..they havent done it before. The men say women just want to be taken care of the rest of their lives...but of course no man here is going to admit..that hey..we are on the market again..need the almighty dollar to have a nice flat..nice car..and be able to afford to date. If you wanted the same lifestyle you had before you got married.. then should have stayed married. As to the poor ones that cant afford child support.. I say bugger off...next time keep your bloomin underdaks on..

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/01/04 01:11 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	Eric	12/02/04 11:00 AM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:32 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:24 PM
Tired Mom...	Eric	12/02/04 01:44 PM
Re: Tired Mom...	aussie928	12/02/04 01:46 PM
Child support Costs	aussie928	12/03/04 07:33 PM
How is some of this possible?	gr8Dad	12/03/04 07:50 PM
Re: How is some of this possible?	aussie928	12/03/04 09:31 PM
The whole study is old and flawed...	gr8Dad	12/03/04 11:39 PM
Re: The whole study is old and flawed...	aussie928	12/04/04 02:40 PM
Of course...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 04:19 PM
The courts don't seem to share your view	Melody	12/04/04 08:50 PM
Re: Of course...	aussie928	12/04/04 05:48 PM
And that is where we differ most...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 06:09 PM
Re: And that is where we differ most...	Gecko	12/04/04 07:25 PM
So you think it is fair...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 07:34 PM
Re: So you think it is fair...	Gecko	12/05/04 03:08 PM
Geeeeccckkkkieeee Babe?	Eric	12/05/04 03:26 PM
Re: Erica Babe?	Onyx	12/06/04 07:20 AM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them." (nm)	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:15 PM
Re: Geeeeccckkkkieeee Babe?	Gecko	12/05/04 03:33 PM
Gecko.......AND OTHERS.....	Onyx	12/06/04 07:28 AM
How cute... :)	Eric	12/05/04 03:37 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them."	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:16 PM
Re: How cute... :)	Gecko	12/05/04 04:39 PM
Re: How cute... :)	aussie928	12/05/04 03:40 PM
Not to defend Eric, BUT...	gr8Dad	12/05/04 04:02 PM
and, why would you not...	Eric	12/05/04 04:45 PM
Re: and, why would you not...	Onyx	12/06/04 07:23 AM
"girly man"...	almostheaven	12/06/04 08:39 AM
Re: and, why would you not...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:50 PM
Re: Not to defend Eric, BUT...	Gecko	12/05/04 04:40 PM
Re: Not to defend Eric, BUT...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:33 PM
How stupid...	Eric	12/05/04 04:39 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them"....	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:17 PM
Re: How stupid...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:41 PM
Re: So you think it is fair...	aussie928	12/04/04 08:58 PM
My responses, step by step...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 10:34 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 09:28 AM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Grace	12/05/04 12:45 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Eric	12/05/04 06:15 AM
Re: My responses, step by step...	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:11 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 12:43 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Onyx	12/05/04 12:00 PM
Between you and I, Big "O,"	Eric	12/05/04 12:45 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them." (eom)	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:12 PM
Think about it...	Eric	12/05/04 01:14 PM
Re: Think about it...	aussie928	12/05/04 01:28 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them."...	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:14 PM
Re: Between you and I, Big "O,"	aussie928	12/05/04 12:58 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 08:53 AM
Re: Of course...	Grace	12/04/04 04:57 PM
The problem with using that line of thinking...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:01 PM
Yes Gr8dad, BUT.......	Onyx	12/06/04 07:13 AM
Re: The problem with using that line of thinking...	Grace	12/04/04 05:23 PM
It would be an interesting study...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:32 PM
Re: It would be an interesting study...	aussie928	12/04/04 09:01 PM
No, I mean the fact that they...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 10:20 PM
Re: The whole study is old and flawed...	Onyx	12/04/04 03:25 AM
That is the problem with no fault divorce...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 04:14 PM
Re: That is the problem with no fault divorce...	aussie928	12/04/04 05:24 PM
Calm down MATE...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:35 PM
Yup. It costs more because of lifestyle...	almostheaven	12/04/04 10:04 AM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	aussie928	12/02/04 01:24 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:38 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	aussie928	12/02/04 01:45 PM
They won't "stop" them...	almostheaven	12/01/04 04:31 PM

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