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Grace
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Reged: 08/19/04
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Re: The problem with using that line of thinking...

12/04/04 05:23 PM

Yes, but how many of the fathers paying their support in full and on time are simply doing this to avoid jail and not to give their children all possible?
What would be interesting to see, is how many fathers or mothers pay support to their children without a court order. If you happen to know of any repots on that, I would like to read it, really I would, I'm not being sarcastic.
I know that my husband left me and our 3-year-old with $4.00 and until a court oder was issued, he didn't give us one more cent. When he paid CS directly to me, he got behind by almost $6000 at one time and threatened me with everything he could to keep me from reporting it. Now that it goes through the state, he pays on time and in full every week. I have the sneaking suspicion that he isn't doing that for the benefit of our child.

His problem is the same as many others. . . he doesn't see his CS payments as money going to his child. He sees them as money going to me. . . and he despises that. He believes that I should be able to care for our son on my income. Maybe that's true, but it isn't just my responsibility to provide for our child.

Please believe that I do know not all dads see things the way he does. But, if the laws and enforcements were different, how many children would do without? And, would these great dads supporting their children still be the majority?

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A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/01/04 01:11 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	Eric	12/02/04 11:00 AM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:32 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:24 PM
Tired Mom...	Eric	12/02/04 01:44 PM
Re: Tired Mom...	aussie928	12/02/04 01:46 PM
Child support Costs	aussie928	12/03/04 07:33 PM
How is some of this possible?	gr8Dad	12/03/04 07:50 PM
Re: How is some of this possible?	aussie928	12/03/04 09:31 PM
The whole study is old and flawed...	gr8Dad	12/03/04 11:39 PM
Re: The whole study is old and flawed...	aussie928	12/04/04 02:40 PM
Of course...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 04:19 PM
The courts don't seem to share your view	Melody	12/04/04 08:50 PM
Re: Of course...	aussie928	12/04/04 05:48 PM
And that is where we differ most...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 06:09 PM
Re: And that is where we differ most...	Gecko	12/04/04 07:25 PM
So you think it is fair...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 07:34 PM
Re: So you think it is fair...	Gecko	12/05/04 03:08 PM
Geeeeccckkkkieeee Babe?	Eric	12/05/04 03:26 PM
Re: Erica Babe?	Onyx	12/06/04 07:20 AM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them." (nm)	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:15 PM
Re: Geeeeccckkkkieeee Babe?	Gecko	12/05/04 03:33 PM
Gecko.......AND OTHERS.....	Onyx	12/06/04 07:28 AM
How cute... :)	Eric	12/05/04 03:37 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them."	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:16 PM
Re: How cute... :)	Gecko	12/05/04 04:39 PM
Re: How cute... :)	aussie928	12/05/04 03:40 PM
Not to defend Eric, BUT...	gr8Dad	12/05/04 04:02 PM
and, why would you not...	Eric	12/05/04 04:45 PM
Re: and, why would you not...	Onyx	12/06/04 07:23 AM
"girly man"...	almostheaven	12/06/04 08:39 AM
Re: and, why would you not...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:50 PM
Re: Not to defend Eric, BUT...	Gecko	12/05/04 04:40 PM
Re: Not to defend Eric, BUT...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:33 PM
How stupid...	Eric	12/05/04 04:39 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them"....	almostheaven	12/05/04 08:17 PM
Re: How stupid...	aussie928	12/05/04 04:41 PM
Re: So you think it is fair...	aussie928	12/04/04 08:58 PM
My responses, step by step...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 10:34 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 09:28 AM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Grace	12/05/04 12:45 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Eric	12/05/04 06:15 AM
Re: My responses, step by step...	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:11 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 12:43 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	Onyx	12/05/04 12:00 PM
Between you and I, Big "O,"	Eric	12/05/04 12:45 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them." (eom)	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:12 PM
Think about it...	Eric	12/05/04 01:14 PM
Re: Think about it...	aussie928	12/05/04 01:28 PM
"Personally? I never post to reply to them."...	almostheaven	12/05/04 01:14 PM
Re: Between you and I, Big "O,"	aussie928	12/05/04 12:58 PM
Re: My responses, step by step...	aussie928	12/05/04 08:53 AM
Re: Of course...	Grace	12/04/04 04:57 PM
The problem with using that line of thinking...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:01 PM
Yes Gr8dad, BUT.......	Onyx	12/06/04 07:13 AM
Re: The problem with using that line of thinking...	Grace	12/04/04 05:23 PM
It would be an interesting study...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:32 PM
Re: It would be an interesting study...	aussie928	12/04/04 09:01 PM
No, I mean the fact that they...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 10:20 PM
Re: The whole study is old and flawed...	Onyx	12/04/04 03:25 AM
That is the problem with no fault divorce...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 04:14 PM
Re: That is the problem with no fault divorce...	aussie928	12/04/04 05:24 PM
Calm down MATE...	gr8Dad	12/04/04 05:35 PM
Yup. It costs more because of lifestyle...	almostheaven	12/04/04 10:04 AM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	aussie928	12/02/04 01:24 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	qeggleston1	12/02/04 01:38 PM
Re: A Tired Mom in VA	aussie928	12/02/04 01:45 PM
They won't "stop" them...	almostheaven	12/01/04 04:31 PM

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