dramafreeplease
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money hoarding,controling, abusive husband
03/13/09 09:36 AM
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ok here it goes... i have been married 8 years at the end of this month. i want a divorce after years of physical,verbal,and mental abuse (more mental and verbal than physical). my husband and have 2 children together ages 9 and 6. i have moved back once to my home state of pennsylvania once before to get away from him; taking the children with me. i went there to go to cosmotology school in order to be able to provide for my children on my own. he said he would pay me no support of any kind and go back to his home country of mexico. so here's kicker #1: i had him arrested for domestic abuse once before. but in order to get him a "green card" we had to hire a lawyer to vacate the charge. so in a divorce can i use that one charge as evidence that he is physically abusive? or would it be looked over because it was vacated? kicker #2 while i was in pennsyvania trying to go to school my truck was stolen. all of my equipment for school, checkbook, a fire safe,and money were inside that truck! so of course i call the police and file a report. then i called him and let him know what happened. i let him talk to the police because the truck was in his name. 2 weeks later i had to come back to south carolina in hopes of him giving me another vehicle (we had 3)and bringing the children down for a visit. he said he would give me one of the other vehicles, then refused. so i had to quit going to school. i still have to pay off a student loan for the time i was there. kicker#3 is that the more and more i thought about it, i wondered why i couldn't get any information about the truck that was stolen. and why the police said they were no longer looking for it. low and behold 3 months later, 1 day before my husband was to go and take care of some legal matters in mexico; my husband shows up at our house driving none other that the truck that was "supposedly" stolen. he said he saw it parked along I-77. this obviously made me instantly suspicious. i got inside the truck and everything was in there just as i had left it! everything! now if it had been stolen all of those things would have been gone! then i looked at the mileage... just as many miles on it as it would take to drive it from pennsylvania to north carolina where he was said to have found it! then on top of that he takes the truck to mexico and sells it! he put the money from the sale of that truck into a bank account down there that he just opened. which now brings me to the money and possession hoarding. everything is his if you as him. he paid for it, it's all his! he has a bank account here that he refuses to put my name on too because i will "steal his money"! our 4 vehicles are titled, registered, and insured in his name only. he gives me $120 a week to grocerey shop for a family of 4! and i had better not ask for money for anything else because it turns into a huge fight of how i don't work and make the money so i dont get to spend it! this is just a little taste of some of the antics he's pulled over the years. so with some of the background here, my questions are: how do i prove abuse when i haven't called the police about it since he was arrested the first time? and would i qualify for any kind of spousal support for myself until i can get restablished so my children don't have to suffer in poverty. like i said he has all of the money and i have nothing! i don't even have a way to pay for a divorce. i'm looking into legal aide but am afraid they will look at the money he makes and tell me to get lost. thank you if you can help me out on this. it will be greatly appreciated!
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money hoarding,controling, abusive husband
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dramafreeplease
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03/13/09 09:36 AM
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Misslisa1017
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03/13/09 04:35 PM
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BeckaLeigh
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03/17/09 09:46 AM
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kotabear
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03/23/09 10:46 AM
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BeckaLeigh
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03/26/09 09:00 PM
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dramafreeplease
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03/13/09 08:28 PM
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finz
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03/13/09 11:17 PM
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kdpnas94
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03/16/09 12:03 AM
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Greenstreet53
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08/10/09 08:34 PM
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finz
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03/17/09 02:40 AM
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dramafreeplease
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03/27/09 03:55 PM
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dramafreeplease
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03/27/09 04:39 PM
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BeckaLeigh
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03/27/09 05:44 PM
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Yes_Dad
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03/29/09 04:43 PM
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almostheaven
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03/31/09 10:13 AM
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finz
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03/30/09 10:57 PM
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Yes_Dad
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03/31/09 03:50 AM
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Misslisa1017
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03/27/09 07:10 AM
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kotabear
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03/23/09 10:44 AM
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DivorcePara
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03/16/09 03:17 PM
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shortmarriage
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03/16/09 11:16 PM
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almostheaven
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03/17/09 07:49 AM
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DivorcePara
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03/13/09 11:07 AM
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DivorcePara
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03/13/09 12:28 PM
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