mentalist
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Reged: 04/26/09
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Loc: Manchester, England
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Re: domestic issue
04/29/09 04:32 PM
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Are you trying to wind me up or something. This post is about peoples experiences & you are somewhat belittling mine.
The court case is in May, and in case you didn't read my post properly..HE HAS ADMITTED TO THE POLICE THAT HE ASSAULTED ME..I would not have taken my child away and left the marital home to live on benefits if it hadn't happened.
If you've got nothing constructive or helpful to say, then you should be on a different website & not one that advises people on the sujbect of domestic issues, which in itself leaves people feeling vulnerable & fragile.
I apologise if I am coming across as defensive, but I feel like you are attacking me.
I'm just a normal woman who has had a terrifying experience & am just trying to find the best way to cope & move on, this website was a stepping stone for me, I didn't expect to feel attacked on it. :confused:
Just to make my situation clear:- my husband and I had been together 15 years, for the last 12 months we were living separately in the same house as none of us had the "guts" to move out and admit it was over. When I met someone else I realised I couldn't carry on with the charade. I came over all "brave" and told him that I couldn't live like that any more and that I was moving out. He made threats of violence to me which resulted in me and my son spending christmas & new year at my sisters & friends respectively. The police had been called after the first threats of violence (he had a lot of pent up anger). We hadn't had sex for 2 years, we didn't eat together, he stopped talking to me and our son,that was the extent of our marriage BEFORE I was lucky enough to meet someone new. Anyway, I digress, the last time I saw my husband he decided he was ready to "talk. He smashed up some items of furniture while ranting that I was taking nothing out of "his" house. He then took our young son to stay at a friends (I thought he'd gone out to cool down). He drank himself drunk then came home & demanded I talk to him. As I was in bed and he had woken me up I told him that I didn't want to talk now. So he pulled my bedclothes off, straddled me, pinned me down & raped me.....That one night has changed me completely, only real victims of abuse/rape will understand that.
Here in England I am treated as a victim of abuse....it only needs to happen once as anyone who violates you once, twice or hundreds of times, as abusing you.
Edited by mentalist (04/29/09 05:01 PM)
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