Annie7676
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No not whining
06/05/09 07:15 AM
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the bigger house, earning more etc etc I can't buy into...unless you live in a really bad place now and realistically do need to improve your living style...but if you live in an average home now and she wants more and nags you for it...well thats not good and as a woman I feel its wrong...does she work outside the home? in todays economy why saddle yourself with something bigger and possibly more costly...especially if the financial burden falls primarily on you...
as for the lost intimacy, been there done that...and lack of intimacy is the DEATH OF A RELATIONSHIP...I can only compare my marriage where that was an issue to where I am today...and I would never go back
I agree with the poster below, make an effort even though you dont want to to reach her feminine side, notes, out to dinner, if there isn't enough time or whatever...YOU make the time....you take care of the arrangements dont make her be the one to get the babysitter..you do it...take it out of her hands and surprise her...and if after doing all that it does not change...well then you got a problem don't you......
house work, jobs, kids, bills, cleaning...all take its toll on a marriage....those things can su c k the life right out of the relationship...the thing is to figure out how to keep the romance alive which will keep the intimacy going
a coworker was experiencing what you have posted...it was suggested she put their young child with relatives for the weekend book a getaway and do it....they did and they are back on track now and have decided they will do it once a month...
i wish you luck and hope the suggestions work...if you can't save the intimacy and you both just live there like roomates then that sounds dismal...buying a "better" house will not fix it and it will only make it worse
and if your wife is a SAHM then that will even more cloud the issues...
i do hope you can save the marriage....as a woman who had this happen she needs a wake up call...
i may get bashed here but WE ARE ALL TIRED...you work, she works whether as SAHM or whatever....we can't forget each other in this process and when we do...well this is what happens..
have you told her how you really feel to make her see the reality as harsh as it may seem?
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