I don't want to genralized, but if you have kids please spare them at this point. I am speaking from my very painful experince. My children were going through their parents divorce and new guy stepped in, who was like Santa Clause, becuase he wanted me very badly. I and my children were sold in a minute. We got married quickly after my divorce, but as soon as we moved in together, he wanted to discipline them, he found all kind of problems with them then with me, not fixing it for him. He insulted their dad on their face, saying you live under my roof, your god damn dad doesn't pay for it, (but their mtoher was, didn't count). His mother lived with us as well, which was like insult to an injury. Anyway bottom line is your children have two parents whether they are divorced or not, new guy can try all he wants, he may not be able to erase their love for their father, then jalousy comes, and punishment. Again it depends on how mature guy is, but this suggetion is from a broken heart person, please don't put your children through this, until they are whole in few years. I didn't lsiten this advice of my friends and family, I was so much in love, and today after lsoing everything, I realised they were right. If you can mange your life financially, keep it separate until kids are grown. I know how love makes us feel, how we see everything good in a person, but none of know how this person will behave when he is put under pressure of blended family, and that will not be his fault either.
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