timbuktu
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Re: Anyone else lose interest after 2 weeks?
09/30/09 09:11 PM
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You sound like me **LOL** And I'm a girl!
When I was at this same point in my life, I did exactly the same thing. Think I liked him, had a good time, but eventually it was just......**whatever** I found that when I went through that time period in my life that I needed to simply not deal with the hassle, the effort, the getting dressed up, the make up......and just not go.
Instead of moving on to another interest outside yourself, why not make your next interest you? You didn't give a lot of info about yourself so I'm just taking a shot at this but it is eerily similar to stages in my life before now.
If you have kids, do stuff with them. If you don't, take care of your own hobbies, house remodeling, spending time with your friends and family members -- give yourself a break from dating.
You know in your heart that the **giddiness** does not exactly form the basis for a lasting relationship, it changes and evolves into something more permanent and solid. There's always room for excitement in life but when you're frantically moving from one person to another, you don't get time for you.
My STBX is similar to you in that he can't stand still, can't just BE, can't relax. He has to be going ALL THE TIME. It was exhausting for me!!!!! I couldn't keep up with him!
I have someone in my life now that I have known for fifteen years and share a lot of history with. He likes to go out and have FUN. BUT he's equally happy watching a movie if I'm tired, dining quietly instead of going out dancing and sitting on a beach reading a book while he holds my hand. He's adventurous without being in constant pursuit of SOMETHING TO DO.
Are ya getting it? Slow down, you may be moving too fast because it seems something stops you at the same point each and every time. Discover what it is -- modify your behavior if you can. And if you can't, then start looking at what YOU need from yourself -- not from others.
And, speaking strictly as a woman, I would find it ever so disappointing and be competely in the dark as to why I didn't quite measure up to your giddy standards and be put aside because the excitement wasn't always blazing.
Just my opinion......
I've met a really great guy...but his "my love" in texts drives me crazy (and not in a good way!!).
We had one date and he already told me he loves me. His voicemails say different and although I kinda sorta like him....it's not enough to make me wanna date him anymore.
How the heck do I tell him to knock off the "my love" crap? I'm not into "lovie dovie" as I told him on our first date when he asked if I was into public affection..yet he keeps it up in text messages..and I just wanna throw up...the reason why I don't return any of his texts..
Yet..his voicemails say, "Didja fall off the face of the earth or what??" and I don't mind that..but I'm just not sure I'm into this guy at all.
I texted him and told him I just think I wanna be alone for the moment....and his reply.."Something I said??"
Ugh...after one date??
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