I am assuming you were asking me those questions. Yes, he hit, kicked, threw stuff at me, took things away, whatever he could to make my life miserable if I didn't kiss his butt. I have never put anyone above my kids, ever, and that got to him, too. He was abusive in every way possible and I had proof to substantiate it, including HIS friends, my friends, his parents, his brother, etc.... My divorce was granted on the grounds of cruelty and that is putting the nicest label on it possible. I could do no right in his eyes, simply because I was a female with her own mind. I didn't flirt, I was very faithful, I kept a job, I took care of our kids when I wasn't working, he did what he wanted when he wanted, and screw what I thought. If I went to the grocery store and took longer than I should have in his opinion, there was hell to pay, including having 6 packs of sodas thrown at my head, busting out the windows of my car, etc.... So, while the abuse card is very easy to use, substantiating that abuse is not so easy, but I did so because I had nothing to lie about. I wish you luck and that everything goes for the best for your children. Even though the sight of my X makes me sick, I am still supportive of his relationship with our children.
I tried being normal once. Worst five minutes of my life.