Ok fair enough, let me ask though who was talking about drugs?? Assumptions??
And TRULY addressing the problem with him was NO option it was my way or the highway, and when i said controlling, I MEAN CONTROLLING!!!! You may have experinced a different kind which is why u dont understand fully, and yes i invited him and he refused to go cause he was also very judgemental about my friends, and yeah i know u may say maybe he had areason to be, but really he didnt cause it was basicly my brother and close friends he always knew about to begin with!!!
Ill admit it was some my fault when i couldn't stand to fight anymore and give up, i could have talked about counselling, but he would never listen and as soon as i brought it up, fight!!!
His mother was a huge problem, rude, sneaky, clingy, she basiclly made his everymove, only child he was as well so i can understand that mommies baby, she seemed to always influence him into attacking me, awful little lady.
And my going out, it was alot but when i came home at 3 in the afternoon every other day to find a message on the phone or him calling me telling me he won't home till late night, sometimes next day, was i suppose to sit there and wait alone with no clue as to what he was doing or maybe if he was off cheating, which reminds me oh yeah he DID!!!! but loved and forgave him, never thought it would happen agian too my knowledge it hasn't.
And dont get me started on communication, i am a rational person, like to handles things maturely and never leave anything sour, or trynot to, but i ask him a simple what are u doing question and he starts screaming at me calling me [censored], and worthless, and all those names one just loves to hear, thats the communication he knew!! never ask what hes doing but tell him every move u make, and agian i would have loved therapy or meds or something but he was a hot head, smallest thing would set him off and he would refuse to get help or take help. simple as that!!!