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I kept my last name same as my kids, which is my maiden last name, but his as middle name to make him happy. He wasn't happy about it, whenever we got invitation cards, he would make very saracastic remarks about it. Many times I felt he actually hated it, when we talked about my last name before we got married, and he agreed to it.

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nothing personal but I would never get married to a woman that would not take my last name it's almost like saying I'm your wife but not really... (It’s like your only half in the marriage)
and I would be dammed if my kids would not have my last name
that's harsh Myheart
as you have told this story it has become apparent why your ex is cold and distant

I don't know maybe that’s just me but to not change your name makes the statement to me that you have one foot out the door already

Then you said he picked his mother over you
I’m sorry but if his mother was sick and he wanted to take care of her how is that a bad thing. I mean, this is the woman that gave birth to him. If you mother was sick and you went to take care of her would you not expect understanding form him.

I’m in no way saying he treated you badly but this sounds like my situation on many levels.

My mother has a stroke and I have to put out money to help her and instead of my wife being understanding about it she in turns become even more selfish and says “So! I guess this means I can’t get a new car” I looked at her and said “what is the mater with you my mother is sick and you had a car that you decided to sell to the junkyard before you left the state, and had you not done that you would still have a car.”

See she sold the car when she left the state thinking they would not geographically restrict her to Houston, TX but they did and now her aunt had to buy her the car that she is driving.

The point that I’m getting at here is that if you truly love some one you bend for them and they bend for you (no this is not directed at anyone in particular I’m just saying this in a general way)

If you don’t have a healthy give and take…
Then you are DOOOOOOOMING your marriage!!!!


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Standing above the crowd he had a voice that was strong and loud

Edited by losingfaith (11/20/09 08:04 AM)

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