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Re: Life "NOT GREENER"
11/25/09 08:05 PM
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I would have put up with it forever too as I loved him like no tomorrow!! But he walked out and I didn't hear from him in over six months so that was the best thing that could have ever happened to me..
Until he blew back into town and was standing in the yard one day with his dog....
UGH...as the feelings came rushing back!!
He told me he was staying at his mom's house and was basically "homeless" but I stood my ground..as badly as I wanted him back and still loved him..I wasn't going there again!!
He'd stop over all the time and we'd just talk out in the yard. I invited him into the house once..and he just said, "No...too many memories...we're better off out here.."
It was the weekend of his birthday that he texted me and told me that he'd had the worst birthday of his life..that he'd gone down to the bar that he and I used to hang out in..he'd taken his girlfriend...and people were just not accepting of it.
He stopped over later to talk about it some more and I just told him, "Hon..those are OUR friends down there...they've been OUR friends for 23 years..you can't just be taking the [censored] you screwed around on me with and expect them to accept her!!"
He says, "Yeah..I know..guess I just wasn't thinking.."
I just said, "Well..I'm sorry they ruined your birthday..yet I'm not sorry that they ruined HER night...take her to some skanky ass hole in the wall..it'd fit her better.."
I gave him a hug and as he kissed the top of my head he said to me, "I love you....and I really really miss US.."
I told him, "I love you too babe..but you have to make up your mind where you wanna BE in life.."
The weeks we talked, he told me that she hated his dog and wanted him to get rid of it...that she wanted him to move back down to California with her and answer phones for her stupid Naked Massage Service (isn't THAT a hoot??") He told me that she was gonna pay him $350 bucks a week to book appts.
WOW...that's a dream job!!
One afternoon he'd told me that he wasn't a California guy at all...that it was hotter than crap down there in the Summer..that there was NO grass anywhere down there..
When he was back HERE...he was hanging out with old friends..back shooting pool league..brought his dog over here and we'd laugh and joke about old times in addition to new ones!! He told me, "Yeah..I really dug a hole for us..and I'd like to make amends somehow.."
I KNEW he loved hanging out here..even if it WAS just in the yard. We'd talk for hours and he'd bring stuff up about his current girlfriend..and I'd say, "She just doesn't GET you AT ALL...why you're with her..I don't know..but that's YOUR business.." and he said, "Yeah..the only person that seems to get me is you.."
Yep!! As he came here one day and told me was moving back down to California with her...probably for two years.."
I said, "What about all your friends here? What about your pool that you love so much? Is there anything like THAT down there?" and he says, "Well no.." and then I said, "Well...if that's what's gonna make you happy..I just want you to know then..that I'm gonna go down and file for divorce..it's time we got this over and done with..I can't sit around and wait for you anymore to make up your mind.."
He just said, "That's fine, I guess. If that's what you want.."
I told him that it wasn't what I wanted at all..but he'd been sitting on the fence...living with his girlfriend..coming back to town and actually making something of himself..only to give it all up for HER?? I told him he was crazy!!
He said to me, "Yeah..I know..you're the only person in my life that really "got me" and we get along better now than we did our entire marriage. Maybe once the divorce is final..and all the money pressures are off from us..maybe we can start over together..."
I didn't say a word...thinking that I'd moved on with a terrific guy...and then I find out that MY terrific guy was going back to his ex.
So..it was a double whammy!! The grass ISN'T greener on the other side..and when the both of them come crying back to me that they made the wrong decision..they I was the only one that ever "got them" completely...well, they can just sit and spin!!
I'd rather be single and happy!!
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