Ok this may be a bit lengthy so let me appologize while I try to give you the "cliff notes".
I filed but I swung for the fence!!!! Adultery, mental anguish, I want the kids, the house, disproportionate share of the assests. I started off with one lawyer who told me that i would need 30 - 40k for a custody battle and that I would prob not get my kids. Well, i didnt go for that so I fired him and got a new one.
fastforward a bit.... My ex is now reaching for straws. She filed for a full discovery. I have spent more time getting bank statements, credit card bills, copies of checks, etc!! like I said above, I went into debt trying to save my business. I guess she was looking for things that I did wrong. She was looking for accounting errors suggesting that I stole money from the business.
She has not (and will not) find that because I didn't. Her lawyer wanted 5 years of quickbooks data - I gave her 10. She wanted specific items from different tax returns - I gave her 5 yrs of complete tax returns. When that started to go nowhere she is now saying that I abused her physically.
my new lawer has moved some things along!! Had a social study and it came back in my favor. I should have decision making authority, that they should live with me etc. The social worker found out that we were going to mediation and at the ninth hour right before he filed the report, he added that it would be an "option" for us to split time even with the kids. Well, in mediation, she latched on to that and we went nowhere.
I have offered to take ALL of the debt., less than half the equity in the house, but I want the kids on my terms..decision maker, live with me, she pays child support. She would have probably agreed to it all except the support. That is the reason she wants to half them. Then it would boil down to time and time = money! Money is where its at for her!!!!
She had a trust (I know, it just keeps getting better) and spends all this time looking up what "she" paid for and what the marital estate owes her personal estate. She has gotten as low as a tree in the yard, wall paper, property taxes that was paid for with those funds. (directly from that acccount. no comingle.) She spent that freely! I never had any input on "her" money!
She handled the "family" finances and basically spent everything that I could make. Savings were never discussed because of her trust.
Back to discovery, I didnt ask for the same from her, although I think that I might be entitled to 1/2 of any profit or interest that her money made while we were married, because its not about money to me!
I fear going to court because I keep hearing that Judges can do whatever they want no matter what evidence you have and since I am the father, I might already be at a disadvantage. Its like I am in a card game and my kids are the chips!!
She cheated on me....I filed for divorce....kids stated they want to live with me....social study in my favor....therapists sees the damage to kids....
Dang, its all in my favor but it seems to go nowhere. I fully believe that my lawyer is not "milking" me. She does a ton of stuff that she doesn't charge me for and allows me to make monthly payments. I do think that the ex's lawyer is milking the crap out of her!
are you a lawer? what do you know about bexar county? How the heck do I speed this BS up! what chance do I have in getting custody? What chance do I have in getting primary full sole custody? Does she really have a claim about me owing her money?
It takes a "special" person to cheat.
Once a cheater always a cheater!
Edited by sadad (01/02/10 06:55 AM)