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almostheaven
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Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....

01/15/10 07:30 AM

>>>>If he was so unhappy, why in the world did we buy this house and move here?!!

Probably because he was searching for happiness...thought a bigger house and family might bring it to him. I tried similar. I threw myself into our home when we bought it, fixing it up. We bought one that needed some work and I did the work. Painting, sanding, staining, sawing and putting up new baseboards, laying down new walkway stones, even put up a small fence with a neighbor's help. As long as I kept busy, I didn't have to focus on what was wrong.

Now I have this really nice home that I worked hard to build the way I wanted it, and...I walked out. He's living there, late with the payments. But in the end, he's not making me crazy anymore.

>>>>>The future is scary when I look ahead and don't see him there with me, I'm sure that will pass. But it's still there lingering.

Yes it will. Think back to when you first got together. It was strange and new. But you grew into a relationship, got used to each others habits, became more comfortable as time went on. You'll get more comfortable without him the same way...as time goes on.

>>>>>I haven't signed up for anything yet.

Do it NOW. Don't wait until you get to the point where you need the help "last month". Sign up now and start getting the help you need. You're separated and based on your income and 4 kids in your custody, you qualify for just about anything. You might even help yourself and the kids by taking all the help you can get and getting back to school. It will be rough for a bit, but think of how it will be once you get a degree.

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Char Fox

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/13/10 09:57 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	almostheaven	01/14/10 08:21 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/14/10 04:26 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	almostheaven	01/15/10 07:30 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	Dogone	01/15/10 07:52 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	Sharonlynn	01/18/10 06:42 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/18/10 10:44 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	aprilellen7766	01/25/10 06:14 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/26/10 07:40 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	issabella	04/27/10 05:20 AM

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