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Sharonlynn
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Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....

01/18/10 06:42 PM

I am so sorry this has happened to you. We all know that the worst thing in any marriage is betrayal. All of us have had some level of it, otherwise we would not be here.

Here is what I have found works for me. I make the list of the givens --- the things I cannot change. Those things will apply to him mostly. Do not second guess yourself. Those things are: He does not love you anymore. He has another woman. He lost his job.

Now here are the things that are wonderful: You are only 28 years old. You have four wonderful healthy children. The courts will force him to pay child support. To say he won't help is laughable because the courts will force him to pay child support. Unless he is missing all four limbs and is so mentally deficient, he will have to pay. Another upside is that he is not bogged down with any financial responsibilities (other than to you and the kids) because he is living with his girlfriend and her mother.

I know you feel miserably betrayed and you have been. Here is the upside, if you can even see the upside. The old adage "if they do it with you they will do it to you" will come to fruition and his girlfriend will feel the sting when he does this to her, and he will.

Cry your tears, feel your grief and find the ways to make a great home for you and your kids. Get an attorney (no easy thing to do) and move forward with the divorce proceedings. You are very young and have a long life ahead of you and can turn this around.

Sharonlynn

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Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/13/10 09:57 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	almostheaven	01/14/10 08:21 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/14/10 04:26 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	almostheaven	01/15/10 07:30 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	Dogone	01/15/10 07:52 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	Sharonlynn	01/18/10 06:42 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/18/10 10:44 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	aprilellen7766	01/25/10 06:14 AM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	mommaof4	01/26/10 07:40 PM
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....	issabella	04/27/10 05:20 AM

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