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Re: too late for love?
01/21/10 12:33 AM
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I agree, that many times joint counseling with an abuser
doesn't go anywhere. My stbx went with me by pretending that he is trying, but he was very mad that I dragged him to counseling (which he told me later). When I brought up the real issue, he blew up,,, counselor was surprised to see that... Yes they don't change their basic nature will not change.
But motivation is everything... Same abuser yells at home over small things, can be a gentleman at work. People never know this person is an abuser in personal life. So if they can behave so good outside, in front of people, at work, why can't they behave good at home, because it too much at stake at work, thye may lose job, and at home there is nothing lose???
See these people don't value marriage over their job and image outside... So if he can't change for this marriage, he will never change. But at the same time, if he values your marriage he will change his behaviour..... It all depends what is important to him..
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