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KiwiGirl
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Re: Way to block pain / triggers

02/20/10 06:31 PM

Do domething else. Each time you think about him and your past life with him you ru around the block. That would stop me within a day.

Choose a nasty chore you HATE doing and that is your 'reward' for thinking about him.

Bacall, in time you can let this loose and fly away. But only if you want to. If you keep picking the scab you will be perpetually feel the pain and rawnessof it all.

My ex has a new life, a new wife and is doing things I never dreamed he would do. I think his choices are impulsive and not thought out. He thinks he is happy.

Am I happy? Yes I am. He was not the reason I was born. My parents did not have me to be good dutiful wife. Being a 'wife' does not define who I am.

Yes, I know. I am remarried. And I refuse to allow myself to be efined by my marriage. I even changed my Facebook name to include my maiden name. It may always just stay as my facebook name or I may chang my name in the future. Who knows?

Bacall, you were a person before you married. You are still a person after your divorce. Would his death have been easier on you?

Yes, your kids are a constant reminder of him. But they are also 50% you. What qualities have you passed onto your kids?

Refuse to qualify your existence by who you are related to. Define yourself by who YOU are. And remember, your ex is the one who failed and walked away. He is the failure.

As for the happy weekend? More snow tomorrow. 3-5" is expected. Oh Yay!

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Way to block pain / triggers	bacall	02/19/10 04:03 PM
Re: Way to block pain / triggers	VanajaGhose	02/23/10 09:54 PM
Wow..no coincidence!	Marla	02/24/10 08:43 AM
Re: Wow..no coincidence!	VanajaGhose	02/24/10 10:12 PM
thanks to all	bacall	02/24/10 10:44 AM
BAcall	KiwiGirl	02/24/10 10:19 PM
Re: BAcall	myheart	02/25/10 12:13 AM
Re: thanks to all	VanajaGhose	02/24/10 10:18 PM
Re: thanks to all	Annie7676	02/24/10 11:02 AM
to annie	bacall	02/24/10 02:12 PM
Marriage is forever....	Annie7676	02/25/10 07:17 AM
Re: Marriage is forever....	myheart	02/25/10 09:46 AM
Re: Marriage is forever....	Curt551	03/25/10 02:24 AM
Re: Marriage is forever....	bacall	03/25/10 02:40 PM
Re: to annie	Atlas	02/24/10 02:53 PM
Re: Way to block pain / triggers	KiwiGirl	02/20/10 06:31 PM
Re: Way to block pain / triggers	Marla	02/20/10 08:21 AM
Re: Way to block pain / triggers	Annie7676	02/19/10 07:03 PM
Re: Way to block pain / triggers	iceis	02/19/10 07:44 PM
Re: Way to block pain / triggers	myheart	02/19/10 08:53 PM

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